Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
I've often used little phrases and jingles to keep on the bright and positive side of things but I'm drawing a blank now when I could certainly use one.
I've discovered some months ago a song by Disturbed : a reason to fight, I listen to it and sing along when I feel "it is a battle I m never gonna win"
Yesterday I had a long nice phone call with the journalist in charge of the Art and Exhibitions pages for the magazine I work with. She told me this : perfection is the enemy of Good. It was not at all about caregiving but it made me think that too often we try to do more than our best, we try to make everything perfect... But at the end we just burn out which is not good!
Anche, your insights into perfection are not only very appropriate and helpful, I think that they address one of the aspects most of us face as caregivers: how to do a good job, w/o overdoing it while reaching for perfection. I think it could also be said that perfection can cause a high level of frustration, and dissatisfaction with one's own performance and attitude.
I'm printing this on a little card and posting it where I can remember it whenever I start a project.
I remember discussions had when I was working, and consulting the assigning attorney about how much "perfection" was required for the client to achieve the results it wanted. I also recall discussions with others working at the time, to get their insights. Men especially had good advice to offer; they were way ahead of me (and other women) on the corporate ladder.
Here is new favorite from the indomitable Eleanor Roosevelt. "Life has got to be lived - that's all there is to it. Take life more calmly. You know that 'this too, shall pass." And just for a laugh ... "When I feel confused or depressed, I remember back to junior high and I silently repeat, 'This, too, shall pass." by Josh Groban I enjoy alliterations, and thought about "Life 2B Lived" or "Just a Jr. High Moment" but I hope these bring a smile and ideas for your new catch phrase. Remember to take care of yourself, too!
"Things will not be like this forever" My best friend always told me that when I was a caregiver for my Dad and then for my Mom. It made me feel better about things just having my friend say that to me and it really worked.
I have posted on my kitchen cabinet, This Season of Dementia with my Dad will not last forever...
This is a hard journey that I never expected...my Mum died 1 year and 8 months ago, then I find out Dad has early dementia...it's been an emotional roller coaster ride mourning my Mum while dealing with all the drama my Dad created partly from grief and partly from brain changes from dementia..
Ever see Finding Nemo? " just keep swimming, just keep swimming" it has a little tune to it in the movie that I can't get out of my head, I use this one to keep pushing forward.
For me, it’s all about music. I hear a certain song, and it changes my mood entirely. I have a song for when I’m sad, a song when I’m furious (and need to calm down), a song for everything, really. I just play it on repeat a few times until I’ve felt it ‘sink in’ and I feel better.
Maybe:
’Downtown’ by Petula Clark
Try looking out for one that speaks to you - has a good up beat, and fills you with joy. Something energizing that has a positive message.
Once you’ve found it, you can listen to it anytime for free on youtube.
Lizbitty, I like your thoughts about the music. Here's one I use sometimes: Lord, I Hope This Day is Good by Don Williams. I hope it helps some of you as well.
I just listened to Downtown. I liked it. I often stop downtown on my way home from work in the evening for a little while before my day really starts at home.
Mine is, “ What are you going to do for FUN today?!”
This isn’t as difficult as it might seem. On some truly terrible days - parent in hospital days, that kind of thing - sometimes all I could manage was to sniff some flowers as I walked by. Or read a sci-fi or fantasy book in bed before I go to sleep. Or treat myself to a fancy smoothie from the store.
It reminds me to seek out and grab onto any good moment on any given type of day. Sometimes those little moments really really help bring me to life
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
She told me this : perfection is the enemy of Good.
It was not at all about caregiving but it made me think that too often we try to do more than our best, we try to make everything perfect... But at the end we just burn out which is not good!
I'm printing this on a little card and posting it where I can remember it whenever I start a project.
I remember discussions had when I was working, and consulting the assigning attorney about how much "perfection" was required for the client to achieve the results it wanted. I also recall discussions with others working at the time, to get their insights. Men especially had good advice to offer; they were way ahead of me (and other women) on the corporate ladder.
Thanks for sharing this valuable approach.
I enjoy alliterations, and thought about "Life 2B Lived" or "Just a Jr. High Moment" but I hope these bring a smile and ideas for your new catch phrase. Remember to take care of yourself, too!
The best of my life."
This is a hard journey that I never expected...my Mum died 1 year and 8 months ago, then I find out Dad has early dementia...it's been an emotional roller coaster ride mourning my Mum while dealing with all the drama my Dad created partly from grief and partly from brain changes from dementia..
Nothing is impossible. The word itself says " I'm possible".
I will write it in my journal
“Dear Lord, please handle this day for me. I can’t do it by myself.”
― Prussian General Karl von Clausewitz, Vom Kriege, 1832
Maybe:
’Downtown’ by Petula Clark
Try looking out for one that speaks to you - has a good up beat, and fills you with joy. Something energizing that has a positive message.
Once you’ve found it, you can listen to it anytime for free on youtube.
I just listened to Downtown. I liked it. I often stop downtown on my way home from work in the evening for a little while before my day really starts at home.
This isn’t as difficult as it might seem. On some truly terrible days - parent in hospital days, that kind of thing - sometimes all I could manage was to sniff some flowers as I walked by. Or read a sci-fi or fantasy book in bed before I go to sleep. Or treat myself to a fancy smoothie from the store.
It reminds me to seek out and grab onto any good moment on any given type of day. Sometimes those little moments really really help bring me to life