I feel like I'm a bit nuts.
I took Mom to my daughters for Thanksgiving-she had a nice day and we took pictures, well I sent one to my sister and her reply was "she looks sad in that pic".
It was a good pic of her and her great grandaughter.
Well, that night I just couldn't sleep thinking about her remark, this happens every time "anything is said that is negitive about anything!!
I have 2 sisters that just aren't doing anything for Mom but voice their opinion and when they say she needs--I just can't sleep until "I" get it done.
Do others have this problem or am I actually going nuts ??
You cannot be "super caregiver" so stop trying. When your sisters say that mom needs something tell them to get it for her. It could be that you are so efficient that your family thinks that you dont need any help.
And stop taking to heart their nasty comments. I know that it is easier said then done. But dont give them the satisfaction. I struggle with the same issues, and more.
I get through the day with massive doses of prayer.
I have found that when family members criticize- it's out of guilt. Next time your sister makes a comment like"mom looked sad" sound upbeat and reply, "you are so perceptive- when this picture was taken mom mentioned how much she misses you!" Trust me, nine times out of ten the negative comments will stop.
It's hard for me to just put her out of things but I'm going to really try to do just that.
I enjoy sharing the few good moments, but I'll have to learn that its just not worth it--so sad.
I'll never understand why some people like to hurt others.
I pray that I'll NEVER be one of them.