First, the good news: Chuck is doing very well with his liver transplant. April 29 will mark the one year anniversary of his transplant at the Mayo Clinic. He's showing no signs of rejection, is off 80% of his medications, and his follow up tests and visits show him to be a super star. He's back to photographing birds every morning with my son, even in minus 5 degree weather, so that pretty much says it all. My avatar pics are of his birds.
Now for the bad news: I've mentioned before having a surface melanoma on my arm removed in October of 2021. An "in situ" mole of no consequence where all the melanoma 'was removed successfully'. This was a result of having a dozen beauty marks on both arms blow up like balloons after the 2nd Covid shot, grow scabs on them, and when the scab fell off, the beauty mark disappeared entirely. Except for the one. And all of it was not successfully removed after all, as a few cells must've escaped into my body and caused metastatic stage 4 cancer in my lymph nodes, liver, and bones. I went to the ER 3 weeks ago for excruciating pain in my left side where a CT scan with contrast was ordered. The cancer was discovered at that time, and I've spent the last 2 weeks in testing. The cancer is not in my brain, thank God.
The Oncologist told me there is immunotherapy available now for malignant melanoma. 2 types at once, administered via IV (no port) every 3 weeks x4. That's the goal. To turn on my immune system to kill off this cancer. 50% of immunotherapy patients are alive 2 years later. Idk what the percentage is at the 5 year mark. I've avoided doing research bc I'm overwhelmed enough already.
I'm having tremendous pain in my spine, ribs and liver, where the cancer is the worst. The Oncologist gave me some heavy duty pain meds and told me to wait it out until the IV starts kicking in to relieve my pain. He said I would live less than 2 months without treatment so my first treatment is tomorrow morning. The side effects can be gnarly and these infusions WILL kick my butt, he said. I'm ready, I think. Ain't no beauty mark gonna take ME down at 65! 😑
I'm useless at home, so Chuck is doing everything. Laundry, cooking, grocery shopping, driving to appointments. I have a housekeeper coming in to do the heavy cleaning and my stepson and his wife are cooking 7 dinners for us and bringing them by on Saturday. I have to make sure HE'S not overworked during this treatment process to where he gets sick. He's already overcome with worry and shock over all this as it is. I'll ask my stepson to repeat that meal making plan, too...they want to help & we need help.
We've had a lot to deal with the past year, and now my issues, which were there all along, just not apparent until recently. We wouldn't have been able to handle TWO of us sick at once anyway, so this is how it had to play out, I suppose.
The one bright spot I hold onto here is the dime I found on the floor of the ER room I'd been in ALL DAY where there was no dime on the floor. And when the gal was wheeling me back into the room from the CT scan, there it was. I kicked it across the floor to Chuck and he said, "what's that?" I said, "it's a dime from dad, telling me everything will be alright." He was speechless. Dad used to send me dimes all the time after he died in 2015, but stopped the past few years. I have a whole piggy bank full of them.
We can use all the prayers we can get right now, friends. I believe in prayers, in miracles and in signs from our deceased loved ones that they are with us in tough times. If you do too, please send up some prayers for Chuck and I right now.
Many thanks.
How is your precious grandson doing these days? How old is he now?
A couple we know planned the once-in-a-lifetime trip to Italy to explore their roots and see the country. They have three daughters, not sure how many grandkids, but they all went. Each daughter (one married, one single, one with a significant other -- you see where this is going, right?) were tasked with planning one destination in Italy. Well the one daughter planned a destination that involved a cruise ship from Italy to Greece and once they arrived in Greece, it was, "Surprise, we're getting married!" They had everything in place and the wedding happened within hours. Total surprise (and delight) to everyone, including all of us that were following their trip on Facebook.
I'm not sure of the exact date last February when you told us of your diagnosis, but I do know it was about a year ago -- and here you are continuing to give great advice and help so many people!! Hurray, Lea! You are loved 😍
I hear you about the dye jobs not lasting as well as they used to. Advice from my dd was to get a streaked effect so it looked more natural, which I have done for a number of years now. I get dark blonde (my original colour) low lights put in and they "tone" the white to a lighter blonde. Then I'm good for 5 weeks and use a root touch up spray until I get it done again. I've let it go so long this time that lots of white is showing and I am not bothering with the spray.
Need and Joann - that streak sounds very attractive. I went white after I had my last child when I was 41. My white hair takes dye very well so that's not a problem for me, It's a lovely white and I have had comments to that effect from several hairdressers. Part of me wants to leave it white, but I know when I am not feeling well (which happens too often) the white drains me and the colour lifts me, So I am looking for a new hairdresser to give me the works. It's half way down my back and I wear it up mostly which is real easy. One day I'll get it cut off and stop the dye jobs - when I am ready.😊
I think white hair is beautiful! My
mom and grandma had gorgeous white hair. Mom’s hair stylist used her as a hair model for his salon.
My hair is silver like my dad’s was but I am hoping that it will turn white like mom’s was. She started off with silver and then it turned white.
My DD is 46 and I see a lot of white in between dye jobs. Told her to let it grow out but she won't. My DH did not show any gray till almost 60. At 77 still has some brown. My youngest has his coloring so hopes it's a while before she shows gray.
It’s interesting how people have difficulty with hair color not working in certain areas.
One of my daughter’s teachers had black hair with a silver streak running through it. It was strikingly beautiful. I thought she did it on purpose. She told me that section of her hair wouldn’t hold the dye.
My brows are still full, so I just use a brow powder to darken them. The lashes I have to ignore for the eye condition I suffer from. My hair color lasts a shorter and shorter amount of time lately as the white hair bleeds thru sooner 🙄
Great info. about eye brows and lashes. My biggest need right now is to get my hair coloured. though with more and more white showing I fit in here with all these seniors very well. But the colour gives me a boost on days when I am pale. I must get my eye brows tatted again I tried it some years ago but they didn't last and when I questioned the shape the gal just said to pencil it in.. Well, If I have to do that I may as well not bother.
Have a good day everyone!
They were undoubtedly gorgeous, but unless I wanted to pay $80/month for fills, then I had to let them slowly fall off; and as they grew out, the weight on the end of the lash would twist natural lashes, and trying to brush them straight with a spoolie pulls the natural lash off. My hairdresser had eyelash extensions for a long time and had the same experience. So now I get the falsies on a band, or you can buy the smaller pieces/clusters of lashes that you dip in removable eyelash glue and add to your natural lash line.
The bond/glue that permanent extensions use won't come off without professional treatment, and even then, I suspect it's going to damage lashes. Some people love them and find the monthly service worth it.
Eyelashes: consider eyelash extensions.
Brow tattooing: I had makeup-tattoo powder brows done a couple of years ago (not microblading, which just didn't take for me even after getting the procedure a couple of times). I'd had them done 20 years ago in my 20s, and the tech just followed my natural brow lines. Well, my brows are asymmetrical. Having them done again and adjusted for perfect symmetry to sit at exactly the same height and be exactly the same shape did wonders for my face. I had them done slightly wider/outside my natural brows for a thicker look, which helps with a more youthful look. I'm very happy with them. I should've done them this way years ago; it's so flattering.
Natural falsies eyelashes: I'm going to put a link here to ones sold on Amazon that are truly natural looking. The band is clear, which helps the natural look. They require a glue process, but with a lot of practice and trial and error, I've learned to apply them. I found YouTube tutorials helpful. I only wear them for special occasions, but they are SO flattering and have a natural-but-better effect.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BX6FWTFM/ref=sns_myd_detail_page
I like all this girl talk! Hope everyone feels beautiful at their special occasions coming up.
NHWM, I could look through that Etsy wedding shop for hours. There is so much variety in the offerings, from jewelry to shoes and unique jewel bouquets.
Lea, I love that dress you linked. It's different and gorgeous.
I would love to read through all the posts and see all of your different links, descriptions, and ideas, but sigh... no more time. What a fun discussion!
Hey frump away if that's what works for you. 😆 I have had to buy a couple of long sleeved nighties as my shoulders and arms are getting cold at night. Trying to find any I like is a challenge.Most of them make me look like I am 11 months pregnant. And at my age!!! lol
You are going to knock 'em out at dd's wedding! 😮
way - eyebrow pencil is a must and first thing I reach for. Fake eyelashes sound great.
new link worked . It’s gorgeous !! I can’t believe the reasonable price for that amount of detailed bling .
Eyebrow pencil works wonders . It takes off 5 years at least . I always had skimpy eyelashes . Getting worse . I will for the first time wear fake at my daughter’s wedding . I am going to get my makeup done professionally for the first and probably only time and ask the makeup artist to just make my lashes look “ normal”. My daughter says they have many different fake to choose from .
I figured why not . I won’t ever have another reason to get my makeup done up for me by a professional . It will be fun.
Bit I DO intend to sparkle on DDs day and leave the fugly home.
Yes NHWM, I'll leave my African bone necklaces and long peasant blouses home for THIS event 🤣
You are funny! I am giggling at your comment about being a “Boho hippie queen.”
Be true to yourself and celebrate this joyful occasion with your family! You know that everyone is thrilled that you are able to be there as the beautiful mother of the bride.
So paint your eyebrows and lashes. Actually your friendly neighbourhood salon can do that for you - they will dye them!!! Get your hair done. Put on your glam and your bling and go Girl!!! Sparkle!!! 🌟✨🎇💖
https://a.co/d/2sm87XV
The links seem to expire after awhile.
Golden, it's MYSELF I can't trust! After sitting around here for over a year with no makeup, white lashes and brows, hair not done, I feel like a big mess. Wearing a glamourous outfit feels weird, wrong somehow. But I'm blowing my hair out lately and putting on some lip gloss, so I'm getting there. After seeing MILs gown, although plain, it's a gown and I can't be coming in like a Boho hippie queen so......its glam and bling for moi! 🤣😃😂😁
I just looked up jewel wedding bouquets.
A woman on Etsy has a shop called, FlorioDesigns. She’s in London and makes jewel bouquets.
Etsy shop owner in California called, FlorisAmorStudio has pretty designs too.
Gosh, this is addictive looking at these jewel bouquets!
The bouquets from CrystalWeddingUK Etsy shop are beautiful! Check out JuliasWeddingSalon, gorgeous jewel bouquets!
Oooooh, a jewel bouquet looks like it will be beautiful but time consuming to make.
glad everyone’s in agreement .
I tried that link last night , it didn’t work . I’ll try again later , but I’m sure it is beautiful .
I had my 1/2 carat round diamond reset 3 years ago because my prongs were so worn .
At the time DH offered for me to trade up to a larger diamond . I said NO , then it would not be what he gave me at all ( when we were happy poor college students , lol) . I picked out a similar setting to what I originally had but added a baguette on either side , and I upgraded to platinum ( from white gold) . At least the center stone is original . I sort of look at it as an anniversary ring now also . It was done around our 35th anniversary and I figure the added baguette on each side is for the two kids we have .
I also have my mothers ring which she reset from the beautiful platinum 1950s setting into a more modern ugly ring. I wish she kept to the original style. Someone would have loved to wear that. But the stones can be reset.