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Mom is an hour and half away. The nursing home is doing the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of what I have asked. I'm her durable POA.

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Mgill,
I am glad others thought to look for references to your question on other posts.
When you don't supply us with complete questions and a good history it makes it impossible to answer your queries.
I know that SOMETHING was wrong here, as your question on its face makes no sense. As I said, Nursing Homes are not prisons.

It does seem you have a long long history here with APS as regards your mother. And it would seem that now your mother is in care, and likely is no longer under your guardianship; she may in fact be a ward of the state. The nursing home will supply you with this information.

It looks like this is now out of your hands. Once this happens you cannot make decisions for your mother. So I think my best advice, given the very little we can know of all this, is that you not be disruptive, that you gather the facts, and that you visit your mother and provide her the best companionship and love you are able to.

Wishing you the very best.
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Please note that OP posted on the 11th

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/what-do-i-do-484681.htm

Seems APS has been involved. OP says the case has been closed but I think Mom may have been made Ward of the State. If so, OPs POA is revoked if the State is now guardian,
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AlvaDeer Dec 22, 2023
JoAnn, thanks so much for this information: I KNEW something was wrong with this questions, because as I told the OP, Nursing homes aren't prisons. I believe that her Mom is a ward of the state now, or that such a thing may be in progress.
I think, given we have really no information on all this, we can only wish our OP good luck.
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Your profile says Mom is in Assisted Living which is different than a NH. Why can't Mom just stay there till you find a facility near you. And why is she so far away?

Of course you can transfer her. As said, facilities are not prisons. You find a facility closer to you, get everything set up, inform the present one that she is leaving and transfer her. I would do this at a start of a new month and if Medicaid is involved you will need to find out how that will be transferred. The new facility should help with that. If Mom is on Medicaid, you may not want to take her home, it may mean going thru the whole process of applying again.

Is your POA in effect? If Immediate, you don't need a doctor/s to make effective. It was in effect as soon as your Mom signed it. If its Springing it needs a doctor or doctors to claim Mom is incompetent to make informed decisions to be in effect. If yours is in effect, you need to give the NH a copy. Then you are the only one they talk to.
What is it that is not being done that you feel should be done?
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Did you place your Mom in this facility?
Why would you imagine, being her POA, and assumably having placed her in this facility, that you could not take her home with you until you make other arrangements?
Has someone suggested that you cannot remove her, as her POA general agent?
If so, what reasons are they giving you?

Nursing Homes aren't prisons. They are facilities entered voluntarily and left voluntarily unless there is some problem. I can't imagine what that problem might be?

Also consider exploring Nursing Homes and Board and Cares in your area, choosing one, and they can work on the transfer.
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Welcome, Mgill04!

Are you your mom's Durable POA? Do you also hold a Health Care Proxy for her?

What is it you are asking the NH to do?

Do you have a doctor's orders for her care plan? That is generally what guides what the NH does.

Have you had a meeting with the administration to go over her care plan?
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funkygrandma59 Dec 22, 2023
Barb, the OP says that she's her moms durable POA.
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