My 86 year old mother suffers from dementia and other ailments. She is a difficult patient and is often angry and agitated. She is also currently suffering from a bout of c-diff. I'm constantly being called at work and home because they're having trouble dealing with her. It's worse now because she needs to be isolated because of the c-diff. The social worker at the nursing home said I need to have someone sit with her. They want either a family member, or for me to hire someone. Neither is possible since I'm the only family member in town and mom is on medi-medi. I feel for the nursing home staff but isn't that their job? I'm doing the best I can but the social worker is just laying on the guilt!
Please be careful because if you refuse to provide this care, they can discharge her as a patient. They can't discharge her onto the street, they would be discharging her into a different facility that can handle her behavior...usually a psychiatric facility and they are not always all that pleasant.
Read the contract with the facility that was signed when she entered. In there you will probably find information on what terms they use to determine if someone needs a personal sitter/aide and it will also detail what behaviors can result in discharge.
Angel