I have this feeling of sadness in the pit of my stomach. I know it is okay to feel it. My mother is a rattled shell of herself and my brothers are busy with their own lives. It is just my mother and me, so it feels like I am living in a world of nothingness. I have three Christmas gifts I still need to buy, cookies and candies to make, and a meal to prepare. I know I will get it done. I don't feel stress or excitement -- just the sadness. I plan to go out this afternoon, hoping it will pick me up some. I'm afraid I'll just radiate the sadness around me. It's not clinical depression. I've been through that before. It is just a sadness that feels like tears are about to come.
At the very least you should bill her estate for your years of care. And I think you would be able to put a care agreement in place if there were a geriatric evaluation by a care manager then negotiation about being paid. You are so fortunate you have the POA's!
And now with a court order almost two months ago to pay me a specific amount and still not been paid a dime! Just do not get it at all! I would also have your grace if I was set financially for retirement, which is nowhere near where I should or could be.
Or is she so angry at Mom's limited guardian, that makes emergency medical and residential decisions and has determined that Mom is to remain at home as long as I provide her care? Anytime during my first two years here sis could have moved Mom any time she wanted and never did. Free care is better for sissies in the long run.