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Beckymcd, it took me a long time to decide to hire help. I was my husband’s sole caregiver. As he became more disabled, I became less able to help him. It was affecting me both physically and emotionally and my husband was very stressed too. My main concern was having a stranger in the house. I finally hired Home Instead. At first, it was a couple of days a week for 4 hrs. It turned out not to be so bad at all. Home Instead tries to find Caregivers who are compatible with their clients. After a few months, my husband had a small stroke. When he came home, he was getting some OT, PT, and speech therapy, so the house was having strangers everyday. I increased the caregivers to 4 hrs/7days a week/ 365 a year. There was a period of adjustment getting just the right people. I found that the care givers help me too. Sometimes, while they are here, I sleep. Other days, if my husband is sleeping, we talk or watch a movie. They wash his clothing, change his bedding, feed him, change him, talk to him, shave and bathe him and run errands for his benefit. I often work with them for his care. The caregivers are vetted by Home Instead. My husband is lucky enough that he has a male caregiver 4-5 days per week. It is not weird having another man in the house. He does anything a female caregiver does. My husband totally “loves” him. He’s just a couple of years older than our son. We are blessed.
You will adapt to there presence and learn to be so grateful for their knowledge and there incredible way of helping you both. Try to learn their ways and trust them then let them do their job.
I worked for both Home Instead AND Visiting Angels (not at the same time, that's a no-no--)
Had almost issues with HI as they were probably thrilled to get someone to work for them who wasn't illegally here, could speak English, had a decent work ethic and wasn't 18 years old and living on their cell phones.
The family was in and out all day--my client and I did what SHE wanted and needed and I learned quickly to acquiesce to what SHE wanted and what was doable. She had so much energy, I literally could not keep up with her. A 4 day week with her about killed ME.
This family was wonderful and accepted and trusted me after just a few weeks. My client did wind up being placed in a LOVELY assisted living--and she still wanted me couple days a week--but there was no need for me.
I took a break ad decided to try Visting Angels--(you need to know that theses agencies are franchised out, so what I got here in UT might be totally a 180 from what someone in CA would experience. This particular agency was poorly run and I didn't stay more than a month. They kept giving me clients who weighed over 300 lbs and expected me to help them get up and down and into my car.
I couldn't seem to get a good 'match' with them so I quit.
Be aware that although the client pays a lot for theses services, the CG doesn't get much more than minimum wage. And usually no raises. It's depressing at times.
Good Luck in this. I wish so much we had gotten Mother to accept care from HI. She wanted help, but YB but the kibosh on it and now he has double the workload.
I found it helpful to be around while they are there, especially at the beginning. It's important to know that they are doing things the way you like, and that you feel they are a good match for you. Because you are there with them, you can develop a good working relationship with them. You don't have to be friends with your caregiver, but the best caregivers are the ones that do get to know you but remain professional. It doesn't happen in a day, but over time. My mom was lucky to have wonderful people who helped her in her last years who in fact became friends.
I never thought I'd want people in the house but our caregivers have been with us so long that it's hard to imagine their NOT being here! The agency owner and her husband have been with us for over nine years. Another has been with us for going on six years, and the other two about 4 years. We had a few in the beginning who left for various reasons; we only had to let one go because she was nuts. They are all people who look around for things to do. Especially in the beginning, when my husband could pretty much do everything for himself physically, just needed supervision, but didn't think he needed any help (!), they helped me with the house a lot. Now they have to spend more time with him as he's completely dependent--severe dementia/parkinsons. But they still help me with shopping, laundry, cleaning, minor maintenance. They are a godsend. My worry: The two who we've had the longest are aging, too! They've had their own health problems, he's going deaf, she had colon cancer surgery, he had a couple of big surgeries...I know I should look for a "plan B" but there's so much to do even with all the help...
Just make sure you pick a reputable agency. We use Visiting Angels in FL. The franchise owner is awesome and came to interview my LOs personally. He is also caring for his own mother so could totally empathize with our situation. We had a few flops but he quickly found us a fantastic CG. She is totally like part of the family. Please don't be tempted to hire a private person, for many reasons. An agency is the way to go. Just a suggestion but may request a guy for your dad as he may feel more comfortable in certain hygiene/care situations. Plus he'd have a buddy. Blessings!
Not always.. we loved Dad's gal! She really became part of our family. You get to meet them first, so make sure you think she will be a good fit for your husband AND you. She was not just dads CG, but she became moms friend too. When she took dad for a walk, she took mom along.. and she freed mom up to do chores and such without worry.
We have a relative whom we trust to sit with my mom once a week. We pay her. They color and do puzzles and have lots of fun. This gives my husband (who is in early alzheimers) and me some time to run errands, go shopping, just get out of the house for a few hours. When he gets worse, I don't know what I will do though. That worries me. Honestly, I cry alot when they are asleep.
My mother had problems with caregivers in the house. I had a talk with all parties. I told them that if everyone was there at the same time, it was still the caregiver's responsibility to take care of my father. I lived 8 hours away. Most crises arose after I left to go home. Hang in there. Let them work. Get some rest.
There are two basics: you need help and your caregiver needs to be paid. Then lots of variables to think about as well.
. Sometimes you both want ‘a friend for company’. Sometimes you don’t – one or both wants quiet personal space. I found it hard to be at home with a chatty cleaner. ' Sometimes you have lunch or a cuppa together, sometimes not. Perhaps ‘your’ rooms are out of bounds. Hurt feelings? . Sometimes it’s all flexible. Caregiver will do more than the contract says if she has time, and you will let the hours change. Then again sometimes carer is on the phone if the agreed jobs run out. ' Some are honest, some aren’t. You can’t tell. You ought to put away everything valuable, including your wallet. It changes your house. My sister had $1000 stolen from her wallet by the ‘nicest’ person – she even came to BIL’s funeral and cried!
Try to sort it out in the contract, the first interview, and by taking up references if possible.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I finally hired Home Instead. At first, it was a couple of days a week for 4 hrs. It turned out not to be so bad at all. Home Instead tries to find Caregivers who are compatible with their clients. After a few months, my husband had a small stroke. When he came home, he was getting some OT, PT, and speech therapy, so the house was having strangers everyday. I increased the caregivers to 4 hrs/7days a week/ 365 a year. There was a period of adjustment getting just the right people. I found that the care givers help me too. Sometimes, while they are here, I sleep. Other days, if my husband is sleeping, we talk or watch a movie. They wash his clothing, change his bedding, feed him, change him, talk to him, shave and bathe him and run errands for his benefit. I often work with them for his care.
The caregivers are vetted by Home Instead. My husband is lucky enough that he has a male caregiver 4-5 days per week. It is not weird having another man in the house. He does anything a female caregiver does. My husband totally “loves” him. He’s just a couple of years older than our son. We are blessed.
Had almost issues with HI as they were probably thrilled to get someone to work for them who wasn't illegally here, could speak English, had a decent work ethic and wasn't 18 years old and living on their cell phones.
The family was in and out all day--my client and I did what SHE wanted and needed and I learned quickly to acquiesce to what SHE wanted and what was doable. She had so much energy, I literally could not keep up with her. A 4 day week with her about killed ME.
This family was wonderful and accepted and trusted me after just a few weeks. My client did wind up being placed in a LOVELY assisted living--and she still wanted me couple days a week--but there was no need for me.
I took a break ad decided to try Visting Angels--(you need to know that theses agencies are franchised out, so what I got here in UT might be totally a 180 from what someone in CA would experience. This particular agency was poorly run and I didn't stay more than a month. They kept giving me clients who weighed over 300 lbs and expected me to help them get up and down and into my car.
I couldn't seem to get a good 'match' with them so I quit.
Be aware that although the client pays a lot for theses services, the CG doesn't get much more than minimum wage. And usually no raises. It's depressing at times.
Good Luck in this. I wish so much we had gotten Mother to accept care from HI. She wanted help, but YB but the kibosh on it and now he has double the workload.
I can't stand being home when my cleaning person comes. I go out, even just to the library, while she is here.
. Sometimes you both want ‘a friend for company’. Sometimes you don’t – one or both wants quiet personal space. I found it hard to be at home with a chatty cleaner.
' Sometimes you have lunch or a cuppa together, sometimes not. Perhaps ‘your’ rooms are out of bounds. Hurt feelings?
. Sometimes it’s all flexible. Caregiver will do more than the contract says if she has time, and you will let the hours change. Then again sometimes carer is on the phone if the agreed jobs run out.
' Some are honest, some aren’t. You can’t tell. You ought to put away everything valuable, including your wallet. It changes your house. My sister had $1000 stolen from her wallet by the ‘nicest’ person – she even came to BIL’s funeral and cried!
Try to sort it out in the contract, the first interview, and by taking up references if possible.
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