I care for my 85 year-old mother with advanced Parkinson's disease since my dad passed in late 2023. Both of them declined rapidly and there was a lot of leg work in finding them places to live (assisted/skilled care homes,) selling their home, and after dad passed selling my home and buying a ranch home (with her money) to care for her and get her out of the home which she hated. After two years I am feeling burned out. I quit my job and write myself small checks, but did not realize that my sister, who lives in another state and refuses to help, resents the money being spent because she thinks I am somehow benefitting. She'd be fine to leave Mom in a home. I mistakenly thought she was grateful and I could be compensated from Mom's estate, but our atty does not think she has capacity to change her will/trust. What can I do? Create caregiver compensation contract? How do I calculate everything? She is wheelchair bound and requires 24/7 care. I know that if my dad could have predicted all that I have done he would have made provisions, but there are none.
Does she have a diagnosis of dementia or other cognitive decline, or is she of sound mind with just physical issues?
Whose name is the house in? Hers or yours or both? For the household bills, whose money do you use?
Not trying to interrogate, just to clarify details.