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My Mom had been in an AL before we placed her in LTC. Both times I said nothing to her until the day she was taken. Because, she too would not remember I told her. We told her she was going to a new apt where she would meet new people and have more things to do.
Sorry, but I don't agree with leaving them for a couple of weeks or more before u visit. They become like children. Like children they will feel abandoned. I see no problem in visiting for a short time every day in the beginning. Allow the staff to do their jobs. Mornings are usually busy. Breakfast, med passes, bathing and then its lunch. I went before dinner. I would sit with Mom and when the aide took her to the dining room, I left.
So I wouldn't get upset, I treated Mom like one of my kids. When it was time to go I said my goodbyes and left. Mom really was never any trouble but if she had been, I would have allowed the staff to handle her.
It took my MIL almost 3 years to adjust to LTC...but she did eventually adjust and now her whole attitude is greatly improved. She has pretty bad short-term memory loss and she is on meds for depression. As much as it pains me to think of having to do this for her, it has helped immensely. Also, she gets way more socialization in her care home which helps a lot. Hang in there...may it go well for you both!
It will likely be a hard day for both of you, but if that's where she needs to be, then that's what must be done.
Since she can't remember, don't tell her again. It'll only cause stress, assuming she does not want to go. Perhaps you can get her belongings over there in advance? Or bring her over, then go home and pack up what she needs in her new living quarters.
She may not like it and might be angry and/or confused, but she will adjust.
There is no good way. Make it that you have an appointment, as in with a doctor. Most places will have a recommend on how often you visit at first; that will be hard, but try it. It helps adjustment sometimes. Hoping she has some favorite things, even a quilt she knows around her. Check with the place often so they know you care and are ready to watch over her. There is no easy or good way to make this happy or right. This is one of the worst steps in losing all the many things we lose as we age. Some people surprise you in having an amazingly good adjustment. Time will tell. If you gain any knowledge as you go, please share it here. What works, what didn't. And on we go. We are all doing best we can and in all of this there are no easy or certain answers. It is just one day at a time.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Sorry, but I don't agree with leaving them for a couple of weeks or more before u visit. They become like children. Like children they will feel abandoned. I see no problem in visiting for a short time every day in the beginning. Allow the staff to do their jobs. Mornings are usually busy. Breakfast, med passes, bathing and then its lunch. I went before dinner. I would sit with Mom and when the aide took her to the dining room, I left.
So I wouldn't get upset, I treated Mom like one of my kids. When it was time to go I said my goodbyes and left. Mom really was never any trouble but if she had been, I would have allowed the staff to handle her.
Since she can't remember, don't tell her again. It'll only cause stress, assuming she does not want to go. Perhaps you can get her belongings over there in advance? Or bring her over, then go home and pack up what she needs in her new living quarters.
She may not like it and might be angry and/or confused, but she will adjust.