It seems like I NEVER see any of the other residents at Mom's Memory Care Home have anger or outbursts. She's been on and off raging, yelling, cursing now for a month and half, and we finally get to see the neurologist tomorrow. The Memory Care Home has been giving Mom Ativan as needed to help keep her rages to a dull roar, but I am hoping to have a better solution. The fine line is that we hope to manage the anger, but not dope her into a stupor. I don't want her to get kicked out. BUT if anger is so common, why don't I see the other residents (there are roughly 60 total) ever having an outburst. Are they all doped up? Grrr...frustrated.
It takes time fir the negative memories to recede and the better ones to return. Don’t feed the negative thoughts. The time your dad spent in care was only a short part of his life. You did the best you could.
It’s far as dementia goes I have worked with several clients over the years and have seen medicine work for some people and no amount of meds and changes work for others it is a short season, most the time it’s been in the very end ( 6mts to year)that I’ve seen the most violent behavior.
When people talk about their parents being dragged into stupor also keep in mind it’s quite possible the dementia has them in a stupor the last 18 months of my mother-in-law‘s life she had no drugs but was in a stupor, I’m well aware of what she took as she lived in my home until she passed .
And if he helps, some of that behavior may eventually phase out or maybe not. It's hard to say.
So, yes, she's staying in character.