Only his first fall a year ago broke a hip. Since then just bruises. MY kids are an hour away, not much help. My husband and I are considering separate vacations so one of us is around for issues popping up. So far together, we’ve only gone 125 miles from home, only two nights. Usually camping. I know having them placed is supposed to give you more freedom but I feel VERY tied down. Anyone else?
As for separate vacations, that's baloney. Someday you or your husband won't be around and the other one will be taking a separate vacation. When you get on that tour bus alone, it would be nice to remember when the two of you were able to get away by yourselves and enjoy it.
So yeah, if you're asking permission to go on vacation, you've got it from me.
My mother fell 95x while living in AL and MC combined, btw. I was an only child too, with only myself and my dh to rely on to help them. And staff at the AL, of course.
Had we waited for mom to pass before we started traveling, it'd have been too late bc we're both now suffering from health conditions preventing us from doing so.
Take your opportunities when they present themselves. Just do so wisely, by purchasing trip insurance.
Happened while I was in town. Would have happened if I was away.
Go.
Yes, yes it does.
Find a memory care facility.
It tore my heart out to place my husband two months ago.
He's safe. He has lots of friends. He's entertained, cleaned and fed. His room and clothes are kept tidy.
I visit a lot and as I leave on those days, I always turn to give one more last wave good-bye for the evening and he's already looking elsewhere and happily chatting gibberish to the person closest to him who is also fluent in gibberish.
Your perception of what you should be doing is different from what works for him.
Your marriage comes first.
Are you hiding behind your dad?
You keep this up and years will (and probably has already) pass, and you and your marriage will suffer.
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