I take care of both parents, for 3 years now. I live in their home. I know in Connecticut, they have a program called CCIS, which is for caregivers, that receive pay. I am the daughter, I have a brother, he lives in Israel. I am wondering if there is a program like this in Florida. I cant work, or go to school, my kids just left the house, and immediately had to go take care of parents.
Would they be eligible for Medicaid? In some states Medicaid pays for them to go to a day health program. Then the primary caregiver can work during the day. Many states have a program designed to keep elders out of nursing homes by providing in-home care.
You'll have to investigate what is available in your state. And then share with us! We learn from each other.
I would also like to suggest one small change in how you talk about/think about your caregiving work. Instead of "I had to give up my job" try "I chose to give up my job to care for my parents." Instead of "I can't work or go to school" try "In the caregiving role I have chosen, I can't fit in work or school." No matter how compelling the reasons were behind your decision, you did have a choice. Acknowledging that allows you to take pride in your decision, and feel like a victim. It also allows for the possibility of making different decisions.
Your brother made a choice. He chose not to leave Israel to come take care of his parents. You made a choice, to go live with your parents and give up your own financial life. By all means, search out any financial help you can get, or any help your parents are entitled to. Be proud of the choice you made for three years, and be open to the possibility of other choices as things change.
What income and resources does she have?
How long will you be able to maintain yourself without any money from a job?
My suggestion is to google "help for the elderly in Florida" and see what state agencies have a site online that might answer your question.