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She had dinner and now refuses to take night meds or to get up and go to her bedroom. She is sitting in the dark with TV turned off by herself refusing to cooperate. Help, please.
If Mom won’t go to bed , shower etc when you TELL her it is time ( not ask her ) then it’s time to place her in a facility . My mother would not listen either . She had had a stroke followed by dementia. The doctor told me Mom was not going to listen to her daughter . It’s not uncommon for elderly with dementia to refuse help , instructions etc from their adult child . The doctor said when that happens they have to be cared for by staff in a facility. It is too disruptive to have Mom in your home. It’s also not good for either of you to be living together and both getting stressed . Mom living with you too stressful , as well as Mom getting upset with you for not liking you telling her what to do . Good Luck .
First I have to say that someone that has been abused in any way from a parent should NEVER take on the responsibility of their hands on care. (your siblings have it right!) Now that doesn't mean that once they're placed in the appropriate facility that you still can't be their advocate if you so choose, but taking on the stress of not only caregiving but also the added stress of reliving your past while doing it and jeopardizing your own health for them is a recipe for disaster. I'm sure that you don't want to be in the statistic of 40% of the caregivers caring for someone with dementia will die before the one they're caring for from stress related issues, so time to rethink your decision and time for plan B(in other words placement.) Please make yourself and your health your number one priority before it's too late.
"Daughter caring for her Mother, with dementia, and Father in my home. No help from my brother or sister who won’t help because of childhood and adulthood abuse. I struggle to let go of the emotional abuse from the past and present so to give them the care they need. I have two chronic illnesses including lupus. I’m trying to keep up though at times I wonder for how long I can do this. see less"
A sudden change in mental status in an elder may be caused by a Urinary Tract Infection.
Call her doctor in the morning and ask for how to get her tested. Or, if her insurance has a nurse line, call them.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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My mother would not listen either . She had had a stroke followed by dementia. The doctor told me Mom was not going to listen to her daughter . It’s not uncommon for elderly with dementia to refuse help , instructions etc from their adult child . The doctor said when that happens they have to be cared for by staff in a facility. It is too disruptive to have Mom in your home. It’s also not good for either of you to be living together and both getting stressed . Mom living with you too stressful , as well as Mom getting upset with you for not liking you telling her what to do .
Good Luck .
Now that doesn't mean that once they're placed in the appropriate facility that you still can't be their advocate if you so choose, but taking on the stress of not only caregiving but also the added stress of reliving your past while doing it and jeopardizing your own health for them is a recipe for disaster.
I'm sure that you don't want to be in the statistic of 40% of the caregivers caring for someone with dementia will die before the one they're caring for from stress related issues, so time to rethink your decision and time for plan B(in other words placement.)
Please make yourself and your health your number one priority before it's too late.
"Daughter caring for her Mother, with dementia, and Father in my home. No help from my brother or sister who won’t help because of childhood and adulthood abuse. I struggle to let go of the emotional abuse from the past and present so to give them the care they need. I have two chronic illnesses including lupus. I’m trying to keep up though at times I wonder for how long I can do this. see less"
A sudden change in mental status in an elder may be caused by a Urinary Tract Infection.
Call her doctor in the morning and ask for how to get her tested. Or, if her insurance has a nurse line, call them.
Your Mom may be too tired to think & no is such a short easy word to say.
Just wheel her to her bedroom & help get her nightclothes on.