I really hate to complain but I have no private time with my mother who has Alzheimer's we used to set in the room and I could do her hair or paint her nails or just watch TV and hold her hand. Every time I go to visit she is sitting in the lobby where we still have no privacy and the husband of the other is always there. I have asked the staff if there is a time that he is not there and they said he is there in the morning till bedtime. Her roommate also has a full size bed in their room which takes up more space plus her husband. Should I ask to have mom moved? She was in the room first. I have gotten to the point where I don't go as much as I did and then I beat myself up for feeling like this. Any suggestions would help.
And, sitting in the *lobby*??? For why? Is there no lounge or sitting room for the residents' use?
What's the husband like? Is he the sort you could perhaps build up friendlier terms with, and from there persuade to take room-mate out on a tour of the grounds or for a chat in the lobby every so often? Tell him there's a girlie session going on with hair and nails and what have you, so he might like to make himself scarce?
But I agree with Patrice - staying away is definitely not going to solve it. Best of luck, please update.