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Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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She is not able to cook. I have found county health can provide bathing and cleaning. She needs assistance in dressing. How can I keep her in the nursing home? She is rational.
Hasn't she had any rehab? Rehab hospital taught my mother how to dress after her hip surgery. I still have the "device" used to put on your socks around here somewhere. I cooked for her on the weekends and she was able to reheat in the microwave during the week when I was at work. Meals on Wheels might also be an option for some meals, although in my area there's a waiting list; maybe they could prioritize your mother while she healed? For us, scheduling someone to give her the blood thinner shot she needed daily for a couple of weeks was the biggest problem. If she's going home, I would suggest getting some kind of a "panic" button device where she can summon aid at the push of a button. They make some now that acts like a cell phone and let you have a two-way conversation with the 911 operator. Even if someone can work a cell phone, it's different if you fall and are in pain - the simple one button panic button or even better a fall detector are much better options.
This is one suggestion to consider. Work out how many hours a week, including travelling time, you could come to her house to help. Say she can choose which hours (depending on your own timetable) and which tasks.
Make another list of the other assistance you have found – timetables, minimum hours, costs, phone numbers etc. She’s rational, so she can understand it and follow up phoning.
Make it seem complicated - which it is! Ask her to sort out what she needs to make ‘going home’ workable and safe, the way she wants. It needs to be total – not ‘we will just have to wait and see’. The chances are that she will realise that it’s too hard and she’s better off staying put.
If she still insists, give her a day or two at home the way she has worked out, and let her check the reality. Don’t ‘exit’ the NH while she experiments.
I hope you get other useful suggestions to consider as well. Yours, Margaret
My mom is in the same boat though her knees are preventing her to walk steady. Even with a walker she will tumble. She too wants to go home but but I told her who will bathe you n dress you n feed you. She wouldn't even be able to make a cup of coffee. I asked doctor n they sd she can't live alone anymore. I told her that n her house is to small for my family to move in n my house is not set up for her to use a wheelchair. So sge has to stay there n I can't go against doctors orders.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Make another list of the other assistance you have found – timetables, minimum hours, costs, phone numbers etc. She’s rational, so she can understand it and follow up phoning.
Make it seem complicated - which it is! Ask her to sort out what she needs to make ‘going home’ workable and safe, the way she wants. It needs to be total – not ‘we will just have to wait and see’. The chances are that she will realise that it’s too hard and she’s better off staying put.
If she still insists, give her a day or two at home the way she has worked out, and let her check the reality. Don’t ‘exit’ the NH while she experiments.
I hope you get other useful suggestions to consider as well. Yours, Margaret