Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
She requires a caregiver to go to washroom day and night! She used to be cheerful and enjoy all activities before 2 years ago! I wish she could become independent again as she used to be.
I am so sorry your wife has this problem. It must be very hard on both of you.
I hope you can get a firm diagnosis. While a 'label' seldom brings a cure, it names what beast you are dealing with. This can help planning. Eg when to consider a higher level of care.
If you are both in IL maybe its time for you both to be in Assisted Living. Those suffering from Parkinson's can decline fast or it takes years. Dementia usually goes hand and hand with Parkinsons. You really need to make plans now for your care in the future. Get all ur ducks in a row. Will, POA, and put your important papers together where the info can be found easily by family.
If you or your wife fall backward, it probably is Parkinsons. There are special walkers made for those who have Parkinsons.
So sorry you and your wife are facing the end of your good health at such young ages. If you need a place to vent you have found it. Many here have problems that must be managed and can’t be cured.
As more help is needed due to poor mobility or advancement of disease then it is sometimes necessary to go to where the help is as it gets very expensive to bring the help to you.
I know it is hard to stop living independent until it becomes obvious that all independence is gone due to the need for extra help.
I am sorry and wish for you and your wife to find the help you need in order to have more cheerful days enjoying activities together. It is hard to accept our limitations in life. They come all too soon.
Yed, I can't know what steps have been taken, but firstly you need a solid diagnosis. There are medications to be tried and etc. I know you wish she were as cheerful and as able as once she was, but sounds as though she is becoming more debilitated due to her illness.
Can you tell us what help you have in caring for your wife? Has she had any rehab or any PT help for balance? Do you have a support system of family around you?
Do you consider that you and your wife should be in a situation now where you have more caregiving support?
And your wife probably wishes you did not have the slew of health issues YOU have too!
Per your profile: About Me I am 82 , I am a diabetic for about 15 years and now i have developed Nerological problem, Nerologists in Stanford and in Sutter Health say I may have developed Parkisonisam try have put me on LEODOPA , Carbidopa !
Instead of wishing you could both be young and carefree again, perhaps try being grateful for the daily blessings you DO have which invites abundance into your lives.
We all wish our loved ones could go back to their cheerful independent selves, but seldom if ever does that happen. You will be best served now if you accept your new reality with your wife and make sure that she's getting the best and correct care out there. And make sure that you're educating yourself about whatever the doctors say she has, so you're better prepared for what ever lies ahead. And if her care gets to be too much for you, make sure you're either hiring some in home help or look into placing her in the appropriate facility, where she will receive the care she requires and you can get back to just being her loving husband and advocate. I wish you both well.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I hope you can get a firm diagnosis. While a 'label' seldom brings a cure, it names what beast you are dealing with. This can help planning. Eg when to consider a higher level of care.
If you or your wife fall backward, it probably is Parkinsons. There are special walkers made for those who have Parkinsons.
As more help is needed due to poor mobility or advancement of disease then it is sometimes necessary to go to where the help is as it gets very expensive to bring the help to you.
I know it is hard to stop living independent until it becomes obvious that all independence is gone due to the need for extra help.
I am sorry and wish for you and your wife to find the help you need in order to have more cheerful days enjoying activities together. It is hard to accept our limitations in life. They come all too soon.
Why do you have an actual diagnosis but she hasn't been able to get one?
There are medications to be tried and etc.
I know you wish she were as cheerful and as able as once she was, but sounds as though she is becoming more debilitated due to her illness.
Can you tell us what help you have in caring for your wife? Has she had any rehab or any PT help for balance? Do you have a support system of family around you?
Do you consider that you and your wife should be in a situation now where you have more caregiving support?
Per your profile:
About Me
I am 82 , I am a diabetic for about 15 years and now i have developed Nerological problem, Nerologists in Stanford and in Sutter Health say I may have developed Parkisonisam try have put me on LEODOPA , Carbidopa !
Instead of wishing you could both be young and carefree again, perhaps try being grateful for the daily blessings you DO have which invites abundance into your lives.
Good luck.
You will be best served now if you accept your new reality with your wife and make sure that she's getting the best and correct care out there.
And make sure that you're educating yourself about whatever the doctors say she has, so you're better prepared for what ever lies ahead.
And if her care gets to be too much for you, make sure you're either hiring some in home help or look into placing her in the appropriate facility, where she will receive the care she requires and you can get back to just being her loving husband and advocate.
I wish you both well.