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I am her caregiver and I suspect that my brother is being dishonest since he refuses. Can I petition for guardianship to ensure he is held accountable? As of now he has no oversight.
The will, forget. No one has any actual right to see it until after your mother's death.
The medical directive is a bit different. It is still confidential: it's a medical matter, there is a duty of confidentiality; but how can you, as your mother's primary caregiver, comply with what it contains if you haven't seen it? You are sure there is one, are you?
I agree with that CM, the OP should absolutely know what her mothers medical directive states. I am curious why she can’t just ask her mother though? Does mother have advanced dementia? Her profile doesn’t say.....
None of you is entitled to see her will. Your brother has a responsibility to protect your mothers privacy. He’s not legally obligated to disclose anything or share her personal documents with you. You can try to petition for Guardianship but it’s costly and the courts in this county are not fully operational so you may have to wait some time before you can go before the judge.
I found out the hard way that if you don’t have POA you should let your brother be the one doing the caregiving.
I was doing all the caregiving & my brother had POA, he has since stopped me from seeing or speaking to my mom for a few years now & had her sign an amended trust to his benefit. My mom has had dementia for about 5 years now & had no clue what she was signing.
When there’s secrecy among siblings they’re hiding something or up to no good!
The Will will become a public document when filed. If you suspect financial abuse, you should notify the state. You can certainly tell your brother you should be getting paid. Do it now. If he says no money, tell him that she will end up on Medicaid at some point, and Medicaid accepts a reasonable fee without demanding it be paid back, if documented correctly, for your aid. He may not be dishonest, but he may be trying to save HIS inheritance with YOUR hard work. Don't let him.
She needs to be diagnosed as mentally incapacitated for you to pursue financial abuse. You would need some sort of evidence it is occurring and the time and money for an attorney. As for the will, none of your beeswax until she passes. As her caregiver, are you being compensated? I would hope that you are, especially if you are providing many or all the hours of care. Good luck!
You can petition for guardianship if your mother has been diagnosed with a condition that deems her incompetent to make decisions on her own. Your brother is not obligated to provide copies of her will or medical directive. As a matter of fact, unless given permission by your mother, he is not allowed to provide that information until it is needed.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The medical directive is a bit different. It is still confidential: it's a medical matter, there is a duty of confidentiality; but how can you, as your mother's primary caregiver, comply with what it contains if you haven't seen it? You are sure there is one, are you?
I was doing all the caregiving & my brother had POA, he has since stopped me from seeing or speaking to my mom for a few years now & had her sign an amended trust to his benefit. My mom has had dementia for about 5 years now & had no clue what she was signing.
When there’s secrecy among siblings they’re hiding something or up to no good!