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My sister is trying desperately to remove me from all my mothers will, POA and healthcare decisions. She blocked my husband and I on Facebook and then unblocked me after a year. She also wrote text messages that my mother wants to disinherit me. I told her why are you speaking for her. Then those texts were deleted. I saved the text messages and took screen shots of all of them in case it does go to court.


Can this be used in court against her if she takes my inheritance or influenced my mother?

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I feel my mother has always divided my sister and I. Comparing gifts or who has accomplished more.
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I’m sorry that you’re hurting. I’m glad that you are no longer your mom’s punching bag.

You don’t have any control over where your mom’s money goes. Hopefully, it will be spent wisely on her care.

As hard as it is for you, try to live your life without any expectations from your sister or your mom.

The only other thing that you can do is to seek advice from an attorney.

I know two daughters whose father had a brain tumor.

One of the daughters convinced their dad to leave everything to her and shut her sister out.

The sister did end up giving her sister a couple of his paintings. The sister who was cut off is trying to prove that her dad should not have been able to change his will after being diagnosed with a brain tumor.

Their dad’s behavior changed drastically after his tumor and his daughter was able to manipulate him to cut off her sister. So sad to see family members torn apart over money.

It is a substantial amount of money in their case. I doubt if these sisters will ever be friendly with each other ever again. It’s awful.

Best wishes to you.
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Be thankful you aren't sharing things on FB together. FB is a pit.
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I think you need to let it go and be glad Mom is no longer there to make you the punching bag. Be glad you now have a life and move on. Do not worry about an inheritance. Like posted, you said in a previous post Mom will need care in a facility. If LTC then thats over 100k a year. Even an AL or MC is not cheap.
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I’m hurt that my sister tried everything to influence my mothers decision, while she was living with me under my roof. She denies this but I heard every word.

She was never around for 25 years, she had her freedom leaving for school and never coming back only when she was in the mood. I was there delaying my life with education and any prospect of leaving her home. My mother never wanted the same for me, I paid for all my education while she had help from my family. It’s okay that my sister was never around for my parents to raise her family, now I’m married at an older age I’m not allowed to have the same. It’s hurtful. My sister was very aware of keeping my name off of documents when my mother asked for both of us to be on the documents. The deception is real. It’s so hurtful, and now she moving closer to my sister. I need to face I was always the scapegoat.
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ventingisback May 2023
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If you really feel there has been undue influence, speak now already to a lawyer to prepare everything you need to do.
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I know you helped your Mom and she lived with you for 3 months. Your Mom treated you as a scapegoat. You made sure she left your home. Did your sister take care of your Mom after that? Is she somehow right, that the inheritance should go to her, and not you?

If your Mom's mentally competent, she has every right to write her will as she pleases, which includes disinheriting you if she wants. Be aware that it's hard to win in court, claiming undue influence. It'll also be costly, take time...

In one post you mentioned that your Mom will probably go to AL, NH, and all her money will be gone anyway...
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