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My brother in law was in hospice in a nursing home, and on a feeding tube which was drowning him in fluids. They took him to a hospice house for his last week. They took out the feeding tube and stopped water too. He didn't need it. He was dying and the body doesn't need anything when it is dying. The fluids were not being absorbed so they just gurgled in his lungs and throat. It sounded awful. When he got into the hospice house he was in complete peace and had absolutely no complaints. He was ready to meet his maker and he knew that he was going to a better place. Hospice house was the doorway to Heaven and everyone who worked there was wonderful.
This is in response to Sugars. How old is your Mother? What do the Doctors say about her long term chance for a recovery or partial recovery? Are they on board with the no feeding tube etc. If she is at the end stage of life not giving her a feeding tube may be the best choice as hard is it is to accept. Remember when the bible was written feeding tubes were not an option. Sometimes prolonging life by artificial means is not the best choice. Quality of life matters and her body may be saying it is time to let me go peacefully. Try to make peace with your sister. You both want the best for your mother even if you disagree on what that is and you need each other. My thoughts and prayers go out to both of you. It is a difficult time.
Faithson, i cannot believe it could go on much longer. A week ago I lost my best friend. He had a variety of health related issues. When they took him off the ventilator medical staff did not think he woukd last even two hours. Five days later he passed. Is there something that Mom may be waiting for? A child, spouse, friend, etc. In my case after 5 days on hospice he passed four hours after arriving to see him. He was waiting for me, I thibk. Had to know all would be ok and his job is to go with his wife that predecased him nearly 20 years ago.
Faithson, it won't be Lon now, the human body can really hang on, sometimes. Comfort and Love her, continue to talk to her. Leave no regrets an just be there for her. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family at this most difficult time. My Mom lasted only one week on only cimfrt care. They brought us into this world, and it Can be a beautiful thing being there as they leave our world to that better place. You're a great and caring Son!
My 84-year-old MIL broke her hip this past spring and has declined steadily. She has lost almost 40 lbs. in seven months. She is in hospice at home. She is about 5'1" and weighs 69 pounds now. For the past month she has been surviving on a few sips of water per day and a bite of cracker or applesauce. I think she is not nearly ready to go and is going to continue like this for months. Does anyone have experience with a family member weighing less than 69 lbs.? How much weight can she lose and continue to survive? How long?
Thank you for your answers to my question. When my mother had reached 20 days with no food or water or IV, just loads of drugs, including morphine every hour and fentanyl, she was experiencing the fluid build up, (gurgling). Haldol was given at that point and she died within a couple hours. So almost 21 days it took for this 87 yr old woman who had not had solid foods or movement or speech for 8 YEARS to die. Unbelievable.
My husband had his fourth stroke in February. In March he went on hospice because they rated him as "failure to thrive". It is now almost September and he is still eating though very little and drinking very little, but his mind is gone and he is hallucinating without medication. He is 81 and has no idea that he is not going to get better. He insists that he can walk and that he did. He wants out of the bed and has seemed to forget that he has a left side that doesn't work. Hospice has been wonderful, but he is a big man, 6' 6" and his body seems to be fighting to stay alive. He sees his dead relatives and rambles on through the decades even back to the 1940's. I care for him at home with the able help of hospice, but am getting very tired. I am 80 though praise the Lord, strong. Hospice gives me respite which I really need. I have very little help and cannot afford a "home" for him nor can I afford full time help.
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Is your husband a veteran? I can't enumerate all the benefits he and you might be eligible for, but I hope you will check out the following as soon as possible. If he is a Vet, plz check to see if there is a VA facility for Domiciliary (Independent Living or Supervised Care), Special Care (Alzheimer & Dementia related Disorders), or (as for your husband?) : Nursing Home (Standard, Skilled & Hospice Nursing Care @ $0 - $2,190 p/mo currently in OH) available near you---perhaps not now but for future needs. I have heard from several others that our Ohio Veterans Homes are outstanding, including top safety ratings, etc.. Mind you, I've been told it's definitely no frills. ...But..."It was so wonderful, it brought tears to my eyes." The rates are about a third of what my mother-in-law paid 5 years ago in a non-VA facility. You might be able to obtain more assistance at home through local, community or federal grants/programs. Even preparing meals (including shopping for food, and cleaning up, etc.) can drain a caregiver. So little things like meals on wheels, or having a volunteer sitter come over once a week can be a big help. I used to have a relative stay with my sister for a couple of hours twice a month, just so I could go to a free support group gathering at our city's Senior Center. I got to vent my frustrations, and I learned lots and lots of ways to better help her and myself. Plus I was able to share with others who understood a little of what I was going through. I also had a little time to relax, have a quiet moment, and oh yes, to have a guilt-free moment to enjoy a whole cup of hot coffee ...at one sitting! Your Hospice RN Case Manager and Social Worker will be able to guide you. Don't be shy about asking. You have to consider your own limits, strengths, and health so that you are able to continue to optimally give to & care for your husband as you obviously want to do. Last but far from least, if he is a Veteran, The American Legion and American Legion Auxiliary, as well as some other Veteran organizations, are continually doing every thing they can to support Veterans, their families, and their communities, forever. The National ALA number is (317)569-4500. I'm sure they would welcome your call, Nancy. My prayers are with you.
Butterflykisses is absolutely right on. I agree 100%. I was an RN and a Paramedic and when someone wants to leave they do so and nothing we can do like life saving measures will keep them here if they want to go. I just lost my dad and took it very very very hard but he told me he wanted to go and hated being here, He stopped eating, drank very very little after a broken hip fall. Deterioted very fast and had NO life. I was with him every day and night for over 5 months and he at the end looked up at the ceiling and starred for a very long time. I knew then it was someone who had come to get him and I am so so grateful he never suffered. Elderly people when something traumatic happens to them they no longer have any interest in eating and will usually stop. I have seen this thousands of times over and over again. My dad lived on fluids only for months and would not eat anything. They have had it and want to get out of the damaged physical body. They become whole and young again and are in a better place than we can ever imagine and we too will meet up with them again one day!
The called my husband to fly over seas, his mother a diabetic and had been in comas and had strokes and pulled thru before, had passed out never to respond again after 3 weeks. His mother liking 3 months being 100, was still up and going til this. So my husband flew over and had machine turned off cause Dr said kidneys failing peeing blood and by then she was stinking and starting to rott. He had to leave and come back to states after 5 days then since she had feeding tube removed and turned off. Never responding, the hospitals there never did brain test but send home to die saying nothing more they can do. Its now been 15 days and the Dr's came back and put feeding tube back in. Still not responding. While he was there he appointed his sister over her now. Still stuff coming out her and peeing blood. This is torcher for us all and what can you do Dr's are ones coming out and doing this there.
My grandmother's tube was removed and 2 weeks later we found out they were giving her liquid medicine. She hung in there for about 7 more days once everything was stopped.
My mother who had a servere stroke at 92 and was in a coma passed days 4 days after they took her off of breathing machine and no food. Hospice was an amazing place. I have been feeling so guilty watching her die from not receiving nutrition! I wanted to save her.
My Dad is 95 and after several strokes and seizures, has had Hospice care for the past 2 weeks under a doctor's suggestion. They discontinued Hospice yesterday; for my Dad has decided it is not his time to die and has rallied. I freaked out at the beginning of the Hospice care when I found out they were not giving him food or water due to his inability to swallow. I feel that it is cruel to let a person starve to death, and give them morphine so they do not feel pain. Because I protested, they began giving my Dad small amounts of "comfort foods" and thickened Ensure. (Interesting that he could swallow when I was there) Starting today we have a nursing service caring after Dad until it is GOD's decision for him to die, not a doctor's or Hospice decision. If he should recover, it will be a miracle!
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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