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Call Adult Protective Services(APS) and report a vulnerable adult living by themselves who needs help but is refusing it, and let them come out and do an assessment, and take things from there.
It certainly sounds to me like dementia. I was a caregiver for a long time and when the accusations that everyone is lying, then the stubbornness, and the agitation start up, it's dementia. Yes, it could be a UTI if the person is elderly, but it's usually also some kind of dementia with it.
You can put him into a care facility if your POA is active and it extends to healthcare decisions. Talk to the lawyer who drew up the POA documents. They will tell you. Just so you know.
In the meantime, this is wat you can do. Call his doctor and explain what's going on. Then call APS (Adult Protective Services) and go in person to the local police department to speak with them. Tell all three what's going on. That he will not allow the care he needs to be safe and healthy. Let them know that you will not be held responsible because he prevents you (his POA) from getting him the care he needs. Ask the police to do regular wellness checks on him a couple times a week. They will. Ask APS to come out to the home as well. They will and can see for themselves. You can also get yourself removed as POA by going to the probate court in the town he lives in and filling out some forms. I had conservatorship over someone which is even higher than POA. The person I had it for became too much for me to handle. I went to the court explained and was removed. The state then appointed someone.
After you've done these things and talked to these people, take a step back. Do the bare minimum for him. Unfortunately, many times there has to be a crisis like a fall or a hospitalization to get a person with dementia the care they need.
These are the ways you cover yourself because you don't deserve trouble. A person can only do what they can do. You're in a tough spot and I wish you all the best.
A POA has been given the POWER to act for someone, but is not compelled to act and is not responsible for the someone’s well being. You should not be “worried about getting in trouble” if you are not allowed to do what you think should be done, when you are prevented from doing it. If this is too difficult and stressful, perhaps consider renouncing the POA. In the meantime, it could be a good idea to contact someone appropriate (the doctor, Age Care etc) and let them know the situation. That protects you from being blamed for things that you think (know?) should not be ignored.
Are you the only person who is taking care of him? Is he early stages of dementia or something else? More people will pop up.. Trust their opinions, listen to them. What sounds best to you... we are all sorry you are going through this..
COVER YOURSELF. you can record it, or log it. If he is family maybe you can record it. Not sure how you'll get his approval to record it... people on this site will guide you with how they handled similar situations. For now, write everything down, date and time. When did it start?
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You can put him into a care facility if your POA is active and it extends to healthcare decisions. Talk to the lawyer who drew up the POA documents. They will tell you. Just so you know.
In the meantime, this is wat you can do. Call his doctor and explain what's going on. Then call APS (Adult Protective Services) and go in person to the local police department to speak with them. Tell all three what's going on. That he will not allow the care he needs to be safe and healthy. Let them know that you will not be held responsible because he prevents you (his POA) from getting him the care he needs. Ask the police to do regular wellness checks on him a couple times a week. They will. Ask APS to come out to the home as well. They will and can see for themselves. You can also get yourself removed as POA by going to the probate court in the town he lives in and filling out some forms. I had conservatorship over someone which is even higher than POA. The person I had it for became too much for me to handle. I went to the court explained and was removed. The state then appointed someone.
After you've done these things and talked to these people, take a step back. Do the bare minimum for him. Unfortunately, many times there has to be a crisis like a fall or a hospitalization to get a person with dementia the care they need.
These are the ways you cover yourself because you don't deserve trouble. A person can only do what they can do. You're in a tough spot and I wish you all the best.
Is he your father or your husband/partner?
last dr appointment ?
new meds?
talk to family and his primary..
Is he early stages of dementia or something else?
More people will pop up..
Trust their opinions, listen to them. What sounds best to you...
we are all sorry you are going through this..
COVER YOURSELF. you can record it, or log it. If he is family maybe you can record it. Not sure how you'll get his approval to record it...
people on this site will guide you with how they handled similar situations.
For now, write everything down, date and time.
When did it start?