One of the biggest scams I have encountered is within the elder care community. Most assisted lving communities charge a non- refundable entrance fee anywhere from a few thousand dollars to over $8K. After I paid the entrance fee, I was told they could not take care of dad, refused to bath him or provide basic personal hygiene. Dad is unable to stand unassisted, which was disclosed in writing up front. I was told I could either pay for a private setter or leave that they refused to lift him. I left with the large deposit still unrefunded. This has happend multiple times and even with calling APS, the ombudsmen and the Health Department, I am finding there is nothing I can do to recover the deposit. All of my complaints have been found to be "unsubstantiated", which I have found is 99.9% of the time. They ask Dad if he was showered, and he doesn't remember. The records have all been falsely documented. I started writing in his chart "No" when I saw that the CG had recorded bathing and brushing his teeth, when i was there and found him unbathed, and teeth nasty from multiple days of not brushing. I have been accused of being "abusive" so many times, that I have learned this is the facilities way of throwing up a smokescreen to take the focus off of them. I was told the only way to retrieve my money was if the facility had multiple complaints for the same offensive, and to show a pattern. Well, who do you complain to? Are there any honest facilities out there that truly care about elders or have we reached the stage that this is just another get rich quick way to scam our parents? This is the most unregulated, dishonest industries I have ever encountered. Where does one go to get support and who advocates for the residents?
Elder care is a multi billion dollar business and the folks who operate these facilities are for the most part no more than body brokers. I have learned that there is no federal regulation over assisted living or in home care. That’s all regulated at the state level, thus the difference in differing states. However, skilled nursing facilities are governed by Federal guidelines.
I have paid $65.00 per bath, for baths that were never provided in a high end skilled facility and in an assisted living facility. Even with Dr orders, or with private funds, one can not control the number of baths that are given unless you are there to supervise. I discovered that Dad had been showering himself in the high end facility for an entire year, at a cost of over $1,000.00 per month. The CNA’s simply charted that it was done, and no one ever questioned. They rolled him into the shower, turned the water on, and left him to himself, with dementia and only one arm. All he did was sit there. I discovered that one when I had to take him by van to CA for a court hearing. He got wet from the rain while getting in the van, and I was subjected to the worst case of BO anyone ever smelled. It took two showers just to get the heavy fog out of the shower. Of course there was no refund of money when I confronted the DON, even thought the care givers admitted it. They said they thought he could shower himself. HA!
The second place was at Sunrise, another well known facility. I was also charged per shower at that facility. Again the care giver simply charted that showers were provided. No questions. Dad finally presented with stage 2 pressure sores when he told me his butt hurt. I literally pulled his skin off with his under shorts when I tried to check his bottom. It had been documented that Dad had been showered that morning, but the urine had dried multiple times causing an infection that caused his shorts to stick to his butt. I took digital photos of that one, but the director simply came in and removed the memory card from my digital camera while I was tending Dad. Again, no refund, just a nasty letter from the director, telling me “No one likes you, You have no friends here”. And what does my friendship have to do with receiving the care for sheikh I am paying?
I don’t have a lot of good things to say about elder care. I have spent over $10,000 a month on care, only to be defrauded, embezzled, and exploited. The term used by administration is “head to the bed”. This is all about money, not care. The last facility Dad was in hired illegal immigrants, who could not read or write English, therefore could not read a menu or a care plan. Dad was served bread and water for dinner and fried wieners for breakfast. I learned that the food comes from the local food bank, that the sister, who is a minister, operates.
I have just reported to the courts, the misappropriation of federal funds and the immigration issue. and have asked for a court investigator to investigate this last home’s illegal activity. I have complained to the ombudsman, APS, and the Dept of health. I was just informed by the county who runs the ombudsman program, that if they closed down every illegal elder care facility that there would be no where to place the seniors. My response to that is if we cleaned them up, we just might be able to hire legal American citizens who actually cared and bring a level of competence and care to the industry. Perhaps then the care providers would actually receive fair pay for a fair day’s work and the owner’s would not be getting rich off of our parents. The last place Dad was in operates ten homes, grosses over 3 million dollars per year, yet has strategically placed the homes in foreclosure (quit paying the mortgage) so her sister can buy them back at half the price. She hires illegal immigrants at $2.50 per hour, and gets the food from the food bank. Now, I don’t know how you feel about this, but I’m mad. Our elder’s are being used as an illegal profit center, and no one seems to care.
This has taken away five years of my life, my life savings, the majority of my income for the past five years, just to oversee Dad’s care. Elder care is a front for illegal business operations, that includes mortgage fraud, rent scamming, Medicare fraud, slave trade. This doesn’t even touch the surface of the exploitation and fraud to the folks like me who have used our hard earned income to support these fraudulent businesses. The problem is that the folks running these businesses have been defrauding the American public a lot longer than we have been on to them and their unscrupulous activities. I have reported to every conceivable entity only to be told my “allegations are unsubstantiated”.
I am making a video this week with one of the care givers who has agreed to be video taped and tell all. I think it will be very interesting. I intend for my experience to make a difference for others. If I can’t stop it, perhaps I can expose it.
wish you could change the clock and time back and do the right way and things may be alot better . i am learning alot and my dessions to do the right thing ... ( i hope i am doing the right thing ) ,,, hope one day of all things will be returned back to you . ure a sweet heart !
i too am worried sick about my father , he is in rehab and soon in few more days i will be bringin himback home .
i threw away my 10 yrs at the same job to stay home and take care of my dad . sometimes i felt i made a mistake doingthat butthen again i knowinmy heart ive done the right thing . dad is like a lit boy . whiney ,,, and he would look at me like im his mom . bless his heart...
i think if i were you i would bring your dad home and get on welfare and have his ss checks go to u !! letthe damn system pay you to take care of your dad .... than eles where ! i have been shavin dad since sept 25 th !! wash his face , changed his clothes that he had wore night before ! my gosh !!! he might just swell come on home .... those cna are young girls and looks like they need to go back to school and learn how to take care of elders better ... drives me insane ! ...
god bless you !
I had gone to the facility, Hawthorne court in Ahwatukee, and paid for the following months room and board only one day prior to Dad being released from the hospital. He was placed on Hospice while in the hospital; the physician did not think Dad could recover. He suffered congestive heart failure, due to the negligence of the Administrator. I informed her for three days prior to the incident that Dad's leg was swollen to the size of his thigh. She continually informed me (by email) that she checked and it was level one edema, nothing to worry about. I then requested the Dr's phone number (facility doctor) so I could contact him. She refused to provide it to me (per email) and stated that she was the nurse, and she would contact the Dr if she felt it was necessary, and repeated that it was level one edema. I was called the following morning at 4 AM to advise me that Dad's breathing was labored, and that he did not feel good. I drove to the facility to find Dad's face swollen, yellow, and his lips turned purple. He was in congestive heart failure. I called the parametics. Six Liters of water was removed from Dad's lungs in only a few short hours. I was told by this Administrator who was young enough to be my daugher, that I 'needed to lose the attitude', while waiting on the parametics. I informed her that she needed to stay out of my way until Dad was treated and transported to the hospital.
My business has suffered irreversible losses. Without divine intervention I will lose my home of ten years to forecloure next month. My earnings have all but stopped for over the past 4 years, due to this type of repeated elder fraud and negligence and the constant intervention that has been necessary to ensure Dad's care.
I was informed that the ombudsman, has no real authority, that they can only attempt to mediate between the facility and the family. Adult protection is only as good as the investigator, who is usually quite young and inexperienced. The first thing adult protective services and the ombudsman do is talk to staff, review the nursing notes, and talk to the resident who has DEMENTIA! I never know when they are at the facility until after the fact.
Since joining MEAPA, I discovered there is a real disdain for adult children who care for their parents in the world of elder care professionals. I was told by a member that the only children who care for their parents are those who are out of work and do it in order to take all the elders money. Greedy, money hungry kids, we are referred to. I must ask, then why do the facilities care for seniors? Is it not for the money? Are they not a profit center for senior care? Dad and I were sure turned away when our money ran out.
I have called the ombudsman, APS, and the public health department. I have sought legal assistance, but I am told that I stopped the facility before any real harm was done to Dad, and that my case is so complex that it would be impossible to prosecute anyone. What about me? There has been real fianacial hardship caused to me. Does anyone care? Where do we go for help after 5 PM and on week ends, when the corrupt facilities and administrators know there is no recourse and no one to call to report?
I am disheartened to learn that there are corrupt administrators, nurses and care givers that work in elder care and that there is really nothing that can be done to stop this injustice. I feel as if Dad and I have been a toy in the hands of experts, who have enjoyed watching our demise. Dad was the bait, I was the cat. After several months I usually receive a letter that states my "allegations are unsubstantiated" from the Health Department.
Dad is doing fairly well in his current group home, even though he had 3 open pressure sores last week. I am learning to be more devious about reporting. The home believes that the adult day care called APS on them and has counter blamed them. They maintain that he did not have them when they showered him that morning even though I visited him at Adult Day Care that day and found him unshaven, hair not combed and dirty. It had been at least 3 days since he had been shaved, groomed or showered. I've never heard of someone getting stage 2 pressure sores in only a few short hours, but then I had never heard of any of the abuse issues I've dealt with for the past several years either.
My experience should make it easier for the next adult child to step up to the plate, open their bank account and take their time to insure that their parent is treated fairly. I have survived for over 4 years, but it is over for me. I have no where to go, no family left, and after 4 years of caring for Dad, no friends. Where does someone like me go? What am I supposed to do? If I am homeless, there's not much I can do to help Dad anyway.
Take care,
Carol
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Good advice neonwocky. You're a smart lady!
I made the decision first of all to write a book based on my experiences in the elder care community and second to find a way that my experience can make a difference for those who follow in my path.
I joined an organization in Phoenix called MEAPA, which is an organization that promotes public awareness, education, and community outreach for the prevention of Elder Abuse and Late-Life Domestic. It is through the omdudsman's office. I was shocked to find two of the heads of the executive committe were from service providers that had caused Dad and I horrific pain, and one that refused to refund our deposit after they gave me notice to remove him, stole the food I brought in and refused to care for him.
I sat and listened as these professionals put down home care givers, and stated that home care givers only took care of Mom and Dad to get their SS check. I was appalled, but held my tongue. There is a push to license non-medical care givers by 2011. These are the folks that are going to the legistature to make sure this does not happen, stating that the additional fees connected with licensure will shut them down. Those of us who are consumers, are not even aware of such changes. They want to keep us in the dark, with our mouths and eyes shut. This is a multi-billion dollar business.
I beleive this is where I am supposed to be. I also believe that I have experienced this abuse so I can make a difference for others. I see a lot of work ahead, but I am on the inside, and will show up at the legistative meetings to make sure our voices are heard.
I need support, I need suggestions. I would like to start a website like this one for AZ, and to keep folks informed of legislative changes, so our voices can be heard. We are not money hungry, grabbing kids, we have spent our funds, and our time trying to give our parents a quality of life, only to find that the homes we chose for our parents, had no respect for us or for our roles as caregivers.
There is much work to be done, but I am sticking in there. I will be the consumers voice, and I will share all that I learn. Hopefully we will begin to understand each other, but if not, at least we will know why we are being abused, and have a voice at the state level on the care our parents receive.
I was shocked to find I was the only consumer on the committee. Every one else was in a position of financial gain in the elder care community. My voice will be heard, and consumers will know who the abuser is, and will be able to speak to someone who can make a difference. This is, in my opinion, as important as civil rights. I appreciate your prayers and positive thoughts.
Carol
You have stirred a lot of emotions and memories that I wish I could forget. I too have seen the system at its worst. Until people come together and expose the fraud, manipulation, and lack of care, we will not see change.
When my Mom was 63 she had a seizure and was hospitalized. Her doctor recommended skilled nursing home care for her recovery and rehabilitation. She ended up in long-term institutional care over-medicated.
When I took over as health care surrogate, Mom was in a drug-induced coma and unresponsive. She was transported to South Florida so that I could manage her care. She spent over six months in a nursing home, a hospital and an acute care rehabilitation center. Her neurologist weaned her from all the medications and she was discharged to an assisted living facility. Despite continued outpatient therapy Mom was never able to walk again.
A year later, she had a seizure and was placed on a ventilator and then passed down the line. I fought so hard for the doctors to reduce her meds and wean her from the vent. She progressed and was so close to being decanulated. During capping trials, her nurse left the room and she was alone. Choking caused her to go into cardiac arrest. She survived, but with severe brain damage.
In the last couple years of her life she was placed in eleven different facilities due to medical setbacks, various levels of care, and the inequities of our healthcare system. It was impossible to manage her care at so many difference facilities and with so many different doctors. The “vent unit” in nursing homes is absolutely the worst!!!!!!
When Mom passed away, I felt like I was coming home from war. I had to fight so hard every day just to have her basic needs met, let alone to get the attention she needed to try to save her life. I saw so many inequities and so much neglect. I began documenting everything and writing letters, however, I didn’t get anywhere. I have three small children and could not continue to fight. I needed a break or I would break!
Public awareness and political pressure is what is necessary. Maybe you should call Michael Moore and ask him to do a documentary. I’ll share my story and my documentation. My heart goes out to you. With every person I help, I heal.
This is what I sent to my senator