Dad is in the hospital right now and yesterday I asked my brother if he could call my other brother, and between the two of them, figureout if one of them would spend the night with dad. I am exhausted after spending a long time up there. Well, I am sure you can guess what the result of that request was. A big fat NO!!! So now I am finally home, 7:00 am, since my sister and husband are with dad now. I just left my brother a message telling him that I will no longer ask him for anything (since this is my first and last request for help) since it seems to be an inconvenience for him and I am not very happy at all......and I dont feel bad at all.
So many of my friends are going through this right now...where one sib in the family is shamelessly pilfering the parent's accounts.
I have no sympathy for these people, they know what they are doing. Their is no "psychology" behind it (ie: sibling rivalry, etc.). When your parents are in need you have two choices: step up or step back. Our sibs have CHOSEN to step way back.
I know that I am doing the right thing by helping my Mom, but it would be so much more helpful and less stressful if the sib helped out once and awhile. Right now I can't even hear his name without becoming nauseous.
From what you're saying, it seems money was the only connection between them. But since you cut the money off, why should he bother helping you out? I think he's just paying you back.