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I am feeling guilty wanting to buy new clothing and trying to look nice when my mom can barely move without help, never mind get dressed into something nice. I hate this sickness!! Anyone else feel like this?
I'm not as far along as you with your Mother...I'm kind of in the beginnings...and she was never the mother I needed and wanted desperately...so i'm in this weird place of I miss a lot of things but struggling with lack of closure of many things because she either has forgotten or completely denies it was said or happened...then add to that she is a narcissist...and I'm her main target and my other 2 sibs are the goldens...and I'm the caregiver...sigh...but I feel guilty seeing her go down and not care about how she looks...Thank Goodness for Therapy!! So so Sorry you are feeling this way (((hugs))) ;)
Yes. It breaks my heart over and over. My mom & I used to go shopping too. She enjoyed looking great, getting new makeup, showing off new clothes and shoes. Now, the make up is just empty bottles in drawers, old shadows and lipsticks, some lotions never opened and never will be. My life, her life, our life is soooo different and I mourn what is lost. I hate this disease too.
I'm trying really hard to shake the guilt, but I do feel sad when I think of something Mom would enjoy doing, but then realize that in reality, she might or might not enjoy it any more, too much sensory input and confusion.
I didn’t deal with dementia with my mom, she had massive strokes that took every ability away. But I can relate to the loss of the companionship of that person you had to shop and buy things with. It still stings now when I see moms and daughters out shopping together. It’s not exactly the same but I have chosen to look at it as honoring her memory when I dress nicely, or pick out new things I know she’d like. You never stop missing the mom you had when you had a good one but you can focus on fond memories instead of consuming guilt
"Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone"
My mom is a shell of her former self and now living in a nursing home. Her clothes are wheelchair adaptive that can be washed to death in industrial washers. Her hair, that she used to perm and have a once a week wash and set, is straight and often scraggly looking because of the unattractive way staff comb it. She gave up wearing her glasses when her eyesight deteriorated beyond their help. Her eyebrows have grown into bushy caterpillars, but I do try to deal with the nose hairs and chin hairs every week. If I didn't know my once dignified and attractive mother I would probably not be able to find her in a crowded room, and this shell is the only woman those in the nursing home will ever know. At least I know better and I can remember her true self, but I'm not sure if that is a blessing or not.
Cwillie, I'm so sorry for the condition of your mom. Yes, it's so sad to see what has become of our dear mothers. It is really getting to me to see the suffering my sweet mother goes through every day. I feel it deep within me, her pain she suffers in the morning and she gets a little better as day goes by but I only have to wake up to live it all over again. It wasn't that long ago I was taking her to hairdresser every week to get her hair washed and styled as she would keep asking the same questions over and over again. I am feeling pain every day for what this bad dementia has done to my mom and yet her pain seems so much worse. My heart is broken.
Cwillie. You moms beauty is still there. When i started caring for a woman who was on hospice. She was a close friend of my husbands family (God rest him). But she was a beautiful woman. Always took care of herself. Gym membership, hiking, palloties, diet... Then she had succumbed to cancer. 4 years and at stage 4, with no cure in sight. She kinda gave up. When I was introduced to her by her daughter. She wanted nothing to do with me. But her daughter needed to return to work. So I came anyways. Her meds needed to be monitored and meals prepared. It took a few days for her to like and trust me. I found some pictures, she shared some stories. My mother in law told me a few as well. They were good friends. She then started putting on her face, getting dressed and wanted to find her jeans. We even went shopping for bras! And fruit. Never forget what was important to your parents, and don't let them forget either. Help her out and hand her a mirror. You will see her smile at least.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
My mom is a shell of her former self and now living in a nursing home. Her clothes are wheelchair adaptive that can be washed to death in industrial washers. Her hair, that she used to perm and have a once a week wash and set, is straight and often scraggly looking because of the unattractive way staff comb it. She gave up wearing her glasses when her eyesight deteriorated beyond their help. Her eyebrows have grown into bushy caterpillars, but I do try to deal with the nose hairs and chin hairs every week. If I didn't know my once dignified and attractive mother I would probably not be able to find her in a crowded room, and this shell is the only woman those in the nursing home will ever know. At least I know better and I can remember her true self, but I'm not sure if that is a blessing or not.