I hope we can heal our relationship but those emotional sucker punches are a bit much.
She had me actually believing she wanted to stay with me and not move-I didn't say anything at the time because I don't want her to think she's not welcome (see she drew me in with loving words) So, today I said she could stay and she said she was joking. I got a little emotional-weak. I could kick myself for that.
This is still working on me. My emotions are wrecked. If I can just hold out.
Just a few more weeks.
No, I will hold out. I only hope I can take away something positive from this instead of this feeling of failure. If that sounds like a 'Woe is me'...oh well.
As you wrote earlier, "I had a moment of weakness..." That's understandable!
Stand your ground. Come back to us whenever you need a shot of "You're on the right track. We're here for you!" *hug*
Stop trying to "mend fences". This woman does not know how to love. She should have never had children. Let her move back into her apartment and NEVER allow her to stay with you again. People like her don't change. They are wired differently. You need to back away and move on. Please, don't torture yourself. Live the life you want.
I have been thinking about your post since I posted earlier. I think you should remove yourself entirely if she mistreats you again. I know that deep down you care. I understand that. Only do what you feel is necessary from a distance.
Please don’t make yourself so available to her. You are not her doormat so she can walk all over you. She hasn’t shown you respect. You can have self respect. Do you see what I mean?
Take care.
Please get some counseling to learn how to disentangle yourself from this relationship so you can have your own healthy life. You deserve to
I get that. Transitional times are hard. It’s a period of adjustment but I still say you will make it through this.
Lean on others until you are strong enough to stand on your own. There is no shame in that.
thank you for the kudos.
I am sorry. That wasn’t very nice at all. She seems to need validation for herself, with no concerns for your feelings. A loving person knows when to shut up and not say everything on their mind.
May I ask you a question please? Does this really surprise you? I mean, you know her character. I realize that doesn’t make it hurt any less but as the old saying goes, ‘Consider the source.’
Take care, Buser. You’re going to get through this and be better for it. There is an adjustment period but we are here for you.
Her moving is not the end of the world, don't blow it out of proportion.
The positive is that you will have stood your ground.
So today I said if you want to stay with me you can (like I said a moment of weakness because she was saying how I take good care of her) and she says oh no I was just joking I'm going to move on. And her classic was she just wanted to see what I'd say.
You know she was just picking my brain.
Anyway, I got a little weepy and she said are you crying?
That kind of thing.
She is good at what she does. And you can never win.
I meant to reply to you Need.