My Mom is stubborn and still insists that there is nothing wrong with her. Although we have taken over most of her major responsibilities, i.e. paying bills, driving, remembering appt., due her memory lost and confusion. All except one, her ability to go & walk where she pleases. Once she goes, we have no idea where she is. She's lost 3 cell phones, and we lose her in stores etc. It's becoming a nightmare.
Call ur local police department and see if they offer any type of monitoring. Ours does. About 10 yrs ago my GFs Dad had an ankle bracelet provided by the police. He too liked to walk. When he didn't return home, GFs Mom could have him tracked. In 10 yrs the technology is probably a lot better. If the police can't help, try the Office of Aging in your County. Maybe your cell phone carrier can help.
And don't forget, if Mom wanders during the day time, she can also wander at night. It's like trying to control a small child.
Time for other measures to be put in place.
So I know it's frightening for her, but her combativeness and stubbornness has made this difficult to manage at all. Although, she was like this before the dementia. But I do take note to what you're saying.
Thanks for replying.
I'd be afraid to leave her alone to do anything. I get she's 'stubborn' and insistent, but, at this point, her loved ones are the best decision makers for her safety.
Losing them in stores is very common, and doesn't get better (sorry). Someone has to stay with them all the time (restroom, dressing room, etc.), much like with a child while not treating them like a child, of course. We can't say 'I'll be over here,' or 'right back,' and leave them in a department, restroom, etc., and expect they'll stay there or come to where we said we'd be. They usually don't remember and either wander off or panic; sometimes they get angry.
Can you or someone walk with her? and tell her to only walk with someone vs. alone, for her safety?
If she's living alone, she really should not be.
Unfortunately, I have to wait until she becomes confused to the point that she will allow herself to be monitored.
This is a very obstinate and contentious individual. She was that way before and worst now.
www.thetileapp.com
The original format was a small flat square, typically used on a key ring, but also can be slipped in a pocket or tied to shoe laces. Now they also have credit card sized tiles.
they are usually paired with phones, but can be paired with your phone and your loved ones phone. Can help you find her phone, or her tile.
We have use them with children, as insurance when taking them out in a crowd.
You complete the online log with info: If button is pushed, who will be called first, second, third, and so on. Medical info can be given etc.
We haven't had to use it for an emergency, thank the Lord, but mom has accidentally pushed the button and they speak to her immediately.
The only downside is you cannot replace batteries. The first unit lasted about 3 years and then we had to buy a new one. Well worth the money
Pat
Have you heard of the elderly person wandering off with no coat until their found frozen to death 2 weeks later? I have happens every so often.
It's time for a family my friend. You cant prepare enough for her wandering off.