I am a certified caregiver (not HHA). I was hired to help a couple. He had some dementia, heart issues, and diabetes. She has severe anxiety and extremely high blood pressure. I have done a wonderful job taking care of this couple. Every week they would tell me how happy they were with my care, and how I saved their life. They do not get along with their children and hired me so they would not have to deal with them. But, one time the wife fell and I did notify the children. She was only bruised. When her one daughter came to see her, she told me her mother's coloring was not good, and she wanted me to make an appointment with her doctor. I had been dealing continually with both parents doctors. We were trying to find the best medication for them. The mother refused to go to the doctor and wanted to wait and see if the new medication would take hold. Some time passed, and before I know it, the daughter makes an appointment with the mother's doctor and takes her to see him. Since she is a bully, and the doctor is very gentle and non confrontational, he told the daughter he would run more tests, and sent them to another specialist. I was then attacked by the daughter. She claimed, she had told me again and again to take her mother to the doctor. She is so mean and such a bully. I had worked so hard and come so far with both of them, I had been proud of my work. I could see that this bully was going to be a problem, and since I had been offered other work, I decided to quit. I knew I would miss the couple, but could see my work would never be appreciated. The daughter verbally attacked and abused me, and I was so frustrated I told her to shut up! I notified another family member that I would be leaving, but would stay until they found a replacement. That day, the mother vomited. I called the doctor's office and was told the doctor would be in the ER, and to take her there. I did this. The mean daughter came to the ER. The mother was admitted to the hospital for tests. The mean daughter told me that elder abuse charges would be filed against me if I did not remove myself from her parents life within a weeks time. I knew I would not get paid for it, but I chose to help the husband, since his dementia was getting bad. Another family member came from out of town to see the mother. She was acting so strange, and I was told about her being an alcoholic. I was sleep deprived and busy getting the husband ready, and she started talking to me. She asked me a lot of questions. She did not know I was going to be leaving. She asked about my qualifications and experience. I have a lot of experience. But, I was so tired, and concerned about the mother that I wasn't thinking clearly and answered that I was a CNA, when actually I was going to take the CNA test before I was hired. I meant to say that I was a certified caregiver. Also, the dementia father had always told everyone I was a nurse, and I would correct him and say that I was a caregiver. After a while, I gave up, and when I thought it wasn't important I wouldn't correct him. The two crazy daughters conspired together and decided I was no good. The alcoholic called me and started screaming and saying I was a liar and fraud. I wasn't a CNA or a nurse, and I was probably stealing too! She went on and on. If they decide to contact Social Services will my true story be listened to? Do I need to be concerned about being arrested? Will I need to get an attorney to defend me?
A report of senior abuse was filed against the family for me providing her food medicine and care giving for 5 years including removing the mother from a sexual pervert, with no compensation.
They counter filed by saying that I abused their mother, had me move out, incurred 800.00 a month rent, she incurred the draining of her bank account for ten months before reuniting us by court appointment. Go figure,
I am trying to find out, how to go about being compensated for my time and work, any body know????
I recently moved in with my dad to assit him in his daily living his wife dosent like it even tho she left 23 yrs ago she has reported that im abruseing my dad bank fraud and not giving meds correct
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