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Questions for you. Has he adapted well? How is your health? Can you SAFELY care for him at home? If so for how long? If he has adapted well if leaving him in AL is a possibility he may be better off. Although there is the possibility that he may have to transfer to Memory Care at some point. If you have health problems yourself leaving him in AL might be the best option. If you can not SAFELY care for him, and by this I mean your safety as well as his, he may be better off in A.L. Placing someone is AL or MC or SN is not a choice people make easily, it is not a failure. It is recognizing that you are human and can not do it all.
The most difficult part of change is taking that first step, I don't see any benefit to back tracking now. In AL you can spend all day every day together if that is what you want yet still have the ability to leave the hard stuff to someone else and go home to restful sleep at night.
You acknowledge having health issues yourself, it’s the time now when self care becomes more important than ever. What good would you be to him if unable to continue because of your own health worsening? Know your limits that protect your well-being. Your husband can still have your presence and support, you’re still a caregiver no matter what, but it sounds like keeping things as they are is safest for you both. I wish you peace in this
You are now at the point where you not only have to do what's best for your husband, but also what's best for you. As hard as it may be to leave him where he is, it does sound like it's in both your best interest to do so. That way he can continue to receive the 24/7 care he needs, and you can work on getting yourself healthy again, and get back to just being his loving wife. I wish you peace as you go forward in whatever you decide. God bless you.
How has he done in the AL. You don't mention Dementia and that goes hand in hand with Parkinsons. If he is doing well and you can afford it, keep him there. There comes a time when you just can't care for the other spouse. This is ur chance to take advantage of the situation. May be harder later if u bring him home.
I suggest though, that you see a lawyer about splitting your assets. Medicaid allows this. Husbands split would be spent down and then Medicaid applied for. You become the Community Spouse, remaining in the home and you get 1 car. Part or all of your monthly income will be used for you to live on.
"I am caring for my husband Michael, who is 81 years old, living at home with age-related decline, depression, hearing loss, incontinence, mobility problems, parkinson's disease, and vision problems."
Those are a lot of issues!
"Retired nurse, loves to garden, read & play simple games on the computer. Recovering from sepsis. Have multiple health issues myself."
Multiple health issues for you? Please make your own health a priority.
I'm curious how you came to have Sepsis. Was it because you neglected getting attended to when you started feeling ill because you were caring for your husband?
Sepsis can be fatal. Would your husband be better off at home, endangering your life going forward, or better in AL with you as his relatively healthy advocate?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Has he adapted well?
How is your health?
Can you SAFELY care for him at home? If so for how long?
If he has adapted well if leaving him in AL is a possibility he may be better off. Although there is the possibility that he may have to transfer to Memory Care at some point.
If you have health problems yourself leaving him in AL might be the best option.
If you can not SAFELY care for him, and by this I mean your safety as well as his, he may be better off in A.L.
Placing someone is AL or MC or SN is not a choice people make easily, it is not a failure. It is recognizing that you are human and can not do it all.
That way he can continue to receive the 24/7 care he needs, and you can work on getting yourself healthy again, and get back to just being his loving wife.
I wish you peace as you go forward in whatever you decide. God bless you.
I suggest though, that you see a lawyer about splitting your assets. Medicaid allows this. Husbands split would be spent down and then Medicaid applied for. You become the Community Spouse, remaining in the home and you get 1 car. Part or all of your monthly income will be used for you to live on.
Those are a lot of issues!
"Retired nurse, loves to garden, read & play simple games on the computer. Recovering from sepsis. Have multiple health issues myself."
Multiple health issues for you? Please make your own health a priority.
Sepsis can be fatal. Would your husband be better off at home, endangering your life going forward, or better in AL with you as his relatively healthy advocate?