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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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I would imagine that living with someone who has depression would be challenging. Your profile indicates that you do. Have you considered that you may suffer from depression too? Why not consult with a professional to see if that is the case. At least, you'll eliminate that as a possible reason that the Depression Support Group makes you depressed.
Do the people at the support group encourage you to do certain things that you aren't inclined to do? I can see how it might bother me if others suggested that I take some actions that I didn't feel comfortable taking and that might bring my mood down.
ArnieBme, do you mean the Depression Support Group posts on this site? I just read a couple of pages of post titles and I wanted to go to bed and pull the covers way, way up!
But that is generally true of all the groups of posts on here. Caregiving is an incredibly tough job, and naturally what we talk about among ourselves is our problems, our concerns, our frustrations. Sometimes someone will post along the lines of "I tried this and it worked!" but most of the titles are not cheery.
Often the content will contain some real gems of helpful suggestions or support. Reading here can really be worthwhile, but don't expect a lot of happy-ever-after stories.
As you know up close and personal, living with someone who has depression is no fun. I can tell you that having depression is no fun. But knowing we are not alone and hearing suggestions and support can be helpful. And even cyber-space connections are better than isolation.
Treating depression is definitely not a DIY project. Medical professionals should be involved. But I find it can also help to talk to others in the trenches. I hope you will find some hopeful connections, too.
I went to an anxiety/depression counselling group for a few weeks. It was called cognitive therapy. The man conducting the sessions was such an asswipe. I went to three sessions and finally had to stop going. I think with anything its trial and error before you find a good fit. Even this website might not be someones cup of tea. As Jeanne said its usually not that warm and fuzzy.
I sometimes try to counter that with trying to be funny. Not always appreciated, I'm sure but I try.
Nature is my therapy. Mother Nature's no asswipe and taking a walk is free. I'm pretty sure that I'd be much more depressed were it not for the people on this site. I read to get information about what works and to gain strength to be a better DIL, wife, person. Caregiving doesn't lend itself to humor the longer it goes on. It becomes a grind when problems no longer have easy fixes like Ensure or something OTC. It's depressing for all involved and I can only imagine even more so if resources and support are tight or nonexistent. If you are so depressed that you're not taking care of yourself then be kind to yourself and listen to your own needs. Good luck and I hope you use this site to your advantage.
No caregiving and humor aren't usually used in the same sentence. But I try to cheer people up on here thats all. I know all about how hard caregiving is. Unfortunately my Mom recently passed but humor got us through a lot of it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I would imagine that living with someone who has depression would be challenging. Your profile indicates that you do. Have you considered that you may suffer from depression too? Why not consult with a professional to see if that is the case. At least, you'll eliminate that as a possible reason that the Depression Support Group makes you depressed.
Do the people at the support group encourage you to do certain things that you aren't inclined to do? I can see how it might bother me if others suggested that I take some actions that I didn't feel comfortable taking and that might bring my mood down.
But that is generally true of all the groups of posts on here. Caregiving is an incredibly tough job, and naturally what we talk about among ourselves is our problems, our concerns, our frustrations. Sometimes someone will post along the lines of "I tried this and it worked!" but most of the titles are not cheery.
Often the content will contain some real gems of helpful suggestions or support. Reading here can really be worthwhile, but don't expect a lot of happy-ever-after stories.
As you know up close and personal, living with someone who has depression is no fun. I can tell you that having depression is no fun. But knowing we are not alone and hearing suggestions and support can be helpful. And even cyber-space connections are better than isolation.
Treating depression is definitely not a DIY project. Medical professionals should be involved. But I find it can also help to talk to others in the trenches. I hope you will find some hopeful connections, too.
I sometimes try to counter that with trying to be funny. Not always appreciated, I'm sure but I try.