My Elderly father has diagnosed mild to mid Alzheimers and lives in a retirement home. A resident female across the hall has now moved into his suite. She previously had done the same with another male resident until his family moved him to another residence. Shortly after she targeted my father. During 8 months of lockdown at the retirement residence and as his brain has deteriorated somewhat he is completely dependent on her and only listens to her versus me, his daughter and POA. She has made efforts to diminish communications with family, does not report all health information, and is encouraging him to change POA. I have fully informed the retirement residence management who will not return my calls. I am unable to enter the residence, he is unable to use the internet, and she is beside him and coaching on all our telephone conversations. I am happy he is not lonely and has found love at 95 years but she is undermining his family relationships, and jeopardizing his business affairs. He has significant resources and we believe that is her long term goal. We tried to get her to sign a cohabitation agreement as suggested by our/his lawyer but she refused. He fully supports her decision. We are at a loss as to what to do next.
Someone with dementia should not have access to a computer particularly if they are or can be influenced by outsiders.
I find it difficult to fathom why the management will not return your calls. If this singular resident has forced one other family to transfer a resident to another facility I would think that they would step in since this will happen again and again.
Contact your dads lawyer aka your lawyer since you have POA and he, your dad, has diminished capacity and maybe a strongly worded letter from the lawyer will force some action from the facility.
but again I would look into a transfer to Memory Care.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-father-challenges-my-poa-status-constantly-believing-he-can-control-his-affairs-any-advice-464005.htm
I also wonder why this facility is not calling you back, especially when this woman has had a similar issue before. You said your dad has significant resources, maybe he should be moved to a better place that will return your calls!
Okay- I thought this sounded familiar- and it's because you already posted about it.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-father-challenges-my-poa-status-constantly-believing-he-can-control-his-affairs-any-advice-464005.htm?orderby=oldest
Use your dad's significant resources to get him to a better facility.
You, as your father's POA, get to make ALL of his decisions FOR him. And you did NOT decide it was okay for this woman to move in with him. Period.
You have rights and you have a voice. If neither one is going to be heard, get dad out of there and make sure you report this place b/c it's going to happen AGAIN to the next poor sod who moves in to your dad's room.
Good luck!
Get him out of there immediately, because he's just a sitting duck otherwise. This is exploitation of a vulnerable adult and what that woman is doing is illegal. Unfortunately, the facility really can't do much for what are supposedly adults over the age of consent, because again, THEY AREN'T A MEMORY CARE FACILITY. If he hasn't been certified as incompetent to handle his own business, there's nothing anyone can really do. You need to fix this immediately.