she is 85 with mobility issues some memory loss my husband is waiting on liver transplant through VA and I can't do both she broke her hip and was in rehab at a great place called the oaks but they have no beds for her and stay full in the nursing home part she was walking some now lucky if she will stand for you. She needs pt.
Oh about "the oaks", I bet what they do is "self-select" for residents. So if you have been there and private paying for your stay, you are on the list for Medicaid beds. So they really never have to take residents outside of that group. Yeah, it sucks but totally legit to do this. Did you speak with the social worker at "the oaks", the social worker and not admissions? If not, give them a call to see what other facility they could suggest for her. Good luck, stay positive and get your rest.
Also keep calling the NH and see if her dr can be of any help in expediting her admission.
Put everyone to bed, grab a tea or glass of wine and hop in the tub to give yourself the care a nurturing you need right now. Take some deep breaths and let these worries wait until tomorrow.
I don't know if this is a state ordinance or is a federal mandate. You might want to get hold of the regulations for the specific nursing home.
Get in-home care for your Mom and get her on a waiting list. You'd be surprised - there is natural turn over in NH. Naturally.
Take care,
Carol