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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Eight years ago, my then husband chose to become his parents' full-time, live-in caregiver at their home, 150 miles from our family (marital) residence. We were already having relationship issues, but my ex's decision to take on this job was the beginning of the end. Two things in particular contributed to the death of the marriage: my ex rarely (as in, maybe once per month if I was lucky) communicated with me in any way; and his dad, my former father-in-law, made clear his belief that he and his wife, my ex's mom, should be the top priorities and that I and our children could safely be ignored for the duration.
My husband of 10 years has been a prince when it comes to dealing with my parents moving out here in 2011, 2 short years after we were married. He's been putting up with a TON of care giving responsibility, moving them here & there, and dealing with all of MY venting and chronic issues with my mother. My care giving responsibilities have definitely impacted my marriage in a negative way, that's for sure. We barely have any time for ourselves without my mother popping into the conversation, the phone ringing with bad news from her or the ALF, ambulance rides to the ER or something else that requires immediate attention. I'm always on my 2 children to PLEASE call their grandmother, and to PLEASE go see her, just to take some of the burden off of me as the only 'child'. So again, a negative impact in every way.
Sure. I would be so surprised if anyone said there was no impact. I am 76 and my significant other is my Domestic partner. My 85 y/o brother one year ago was diagnosed with benign brain tumor affecting balance and a likely Lewy's Bodies Dementia, early onset. Because of this there was an accident, and subsequently my brother moved to an Assisted Living Situation and I have become trustee of his trust and POA for financial. Just taking on this duty alone has made me scared, given I do not know a lot of things and am learning as I go. My increased anxiety puts a burden on my guy. He also has stepped in in a huge way for me, to be there, to run around to lawyers, town to town as bro in So Cal and I in No Cal. One the one hand we are stronger together understanding how clearly and suddenly vulnerable we all are, learning things together and working through. On another hand I am more anxious about everything including our own age, more scared, more hooked in to end of life stuff (I am HERE, right). And that part is a burden. I think each of us could write chapter and verse for how things have changed our relationships and our lives, and THAT is a book I would love to read. I am amazed by the heroism and the pain of the good and decent people here.
It negatively impacts all 3. I tried in home, hands-on caregiving with my 94 year old mother with Alzheimer’s stage 5-6. I was 60 at the time. Hubs and I tried to unite to assist her but sometimes the person being cared for is totally unreasonable, violent, uncooperative, etc. and drives a wedge between the married couple. We got more and more grouchy with each other because we couldn’t get grouchy with her. She lived with us for only 3 months before she went back to a different memory care facility. It was like a boulder was lifted off us. Our focus could be each other again instead of her and having to be on high alert 24/7.
We have grown children out of the home so I can’t speak to that.
My advice; Do not bring a severely demented loved one into your home. It will ruin any relationships for you and whoever else lives with you. It is also very taxing to be a caregiver for an immobile person. I have seen and heard of hands on c/g’s (years younger) dying BEFORE the elderly family member.
One Thanksgiving at my house, my crazy mother got drunk and started screaming at the guests dropping F bombs, this was only one of many issues with mommy dearest. Anyway, the next day my husband said..."It's your choice...me or her". I chose him, he died 9 years later, I had not talked to her the entire time, it was wonderful...he died...I went back and opened Pandora's Box, she behaved for a brief period of time, then it started all over again, I went no contact again. So the answer is yes, she is now 94, I am involved with her through my brother, when she dies, I will help him, but, that is all I can do.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I tried in home, hands-on caregiving with my 94 year old mother with Alzheimer’s stage 5-6. I was 60 at the time. Hubs and I tried to unite to assist her but sometimes the person being cared for is totally unreasonable, violent, uncooperative, etc. and drives a wedge between the married couple. We got more and more grouchy with each other because we couldn’t get grouchy with her. She lived with us for only 3 months before she went back to a different memory care facility. It was like a boulder was lifted off us. Our focus could be each other again instead of her and having to be on high alert 24/7.
We have grown children out of the home so I can’t speak to that.
My advice; Do not bring a severely demented loved one into your home. It will ruin any relationships for you and whoever else lives with you.
It is also very taxing to be a caregiver for an immobile person. I have seen and heard of hands on c/g’s (years younger) dying BEFORE the elderly family member.