I have willingly assisted her with things such as changing linens etc., but I have back issues. I am pretty much here 24/7 and not many breaks only occasionally. Guess it would be nice if I could just relax a minute while she is here. I did feel bad for her one day as she complained about a patient being difficult to turn and she had pulled a muscle and was on muscle relaxants. Don't mean to sound nit picky about helping her but now she will ask me to put on my brace and help her pull my mother up in the bed. Really its more like a request and not asking if that makes sense. When hospice care first started another CNA showed me the best way to pull her up in bed if I didn't have help and this is what I do when my husband is not here during the day to help me. I know I can speak up if my back is hurting but just thinking she shouldn't be doing that. Do any of you all help the hospice workers out at times?
Call the hospice office, explain that unfortunately you're not able to participate, and ask whether your mother's assessment requires one CNA or two. Don't complain about this request, but no more donning your back brace to help out either!
Tomorrow morning first thing call hospice agency & ask for someone else.
Do call and tell them what is happening, a different, more capable helper is needed.
Your CNA needs an additional CNA - one who is not you.
Current CNA may well be a competent CNA - but a 2-person weight requirement
requires, well, 2 people.
You should contact the Hospice and ask to talk to her/his supervisor and explain what is going on.
If a CNA and not effectively care for their patient then they should assign 2 CNA's to visit if the one can not handle what needs to be done.
And if this person is doing this at each visit, other families then the Hospice needs to know that the employee can not do her/his job
The other big concern is if you were to be injured while helping that puts you out of commission, and if it is enough to require hospitalization of you who then cared for your Loved One? And would Hospice recognize that it is a fault of theirs and place your loved one in respite?
And what happens if your loved one is injured while an "untrained" person one that is not an employee is helping an employee.
And what happens if the CNA is injured while you are helping and can she "blame" you for the injury.
I would tell tell her you can’t help due to injury, whatever and ask for a different aide. You don’t want your loved one to get hurt.