She forgets entire conversations she has with family and friends. She has a problem with time spans. She will say we spoke a day or two ago when we actually spoke a week or two ago. We want to take her to a neurologist but she refuses to go. She thinks she is fine. How can we persuade her to go?
Recording her would prove nothing to her and only make her raving mad and in 1 to 15 minutes she wouldn't remember it anyway.
I completely understand why you are worried about your sister especially if she isn't very old. Does she has a spouse or children that might help you get her to go? I would lie or do whatever I had to if it would get her there. We are afraid of making these people angry so we back off, but my sister and I have demanded on occasion that our mother was going to the doctor even if we had to dress and drag her there! I know that sounds harsh, but it worked. She moaned and groaned and bitched the entire time but we did get her into the doctor.
If it is Alzheimer's or dementia there are med's that will slow the progression but nothing will cure them or reverse what damage has been done, it may make them easier to handle especially if they have an anger issue. What if it was something else though that could be easily remedied what a shame not to get some help to find out.
If your sister sees her own handwriting that she doesn't remember writing, maybe you can get her to acknowledge that her memory has some issues.
She's probably just very afraid to face the idea that she's got that kind of medical issue, which often means Alzheimers. But it could be other things that can be treated.
To Carek 1230. Who's is buying the booze and cigarettes. The alcohol and cigarettes have almost certainly affected her health especially her liver which may be giving her dementia like symptoms. She could have also have had many small strokes which can also affect memory. as for you may not be able to liver alone on SSD. you may find that you can with help. go to social services and see if they can help you. There may be subsidized housing available, it is often for seniors but also may include the disabled of any age.. Food stamps, medicaid and if you have catholic charities they can often help with furniture. Don't be too proud keep asking till you get help and don't tell Mom what you are up to. rent a post office box if she gets into the mail but keep it quiet
I don´t believe it is cheating, or unethical, because mostly, they are not they, the disease is now in charge of their volition. And taking care of them is what has to be done.
I have a suggestion on broaching the subject: the show Nurse Jackie on Showtime *****SPOILER ALERT****has a storyline this season about one of the characters being forgetful and being afraid to be tested. They trick her into testing. I am not suggesting you do that, but the outcome of the characters testing was NOT dementia, forgetfulness can result from other causes. Whatever the cause it, better to deal with the issue that not.
If you and your sister like this sort of show, this can help you open the door to a difficult conversation that she seems to have already shut out.
Best of luck.
I've suggested this once before as an answer, but not sure if it's really ethical to trick someone. Lol:) Worth a try. Also consider ginkgo biloba and coconut oil in her diet. Crossword puzzles to exercise her brain. All the best, Dear One. xo
For younger adults, there's likely more of a reason to try one of the drugs that may slow down symptoms because we never know when a new drug will come on the market that could stop the progression of the disease.
Meanwhile, new studies have shown that a combination of vitamin B12, vitamin B6 and folic acid can slow AD symptoms. I'd check with the elder's doctor, no matter the elder's age, about this option. Aging people often don't absorb their nutrients well - particularly vitamin B12 - and many studies have thrown light on the cognitive issues that may occur with low B12 levels. Don't expect miracles, and don't try huge levels without medical guidance. But nutrition can make a difference.
In reference to parents and spouses who won't go to a doctor: there's a point where you have to accept that this is his or her right. You can't tie them up and drag them, and if they won't cooperate not much will be accomplished if you do get them there.
Sometimes, I think if we let people alone and stop nagging (even though we are well intended) they may start to notice that they may need a checkup. Kind of reverse psychology, I guess. Good luck to you all.
Carol
Best wishes