Hello, ok this is a long one. My dad just passed last week. I found out from my son who was emailed by my sister. She had been abstained from him since last May and when she heard I was going to visit him last February, she stopped talking and was hateful to him. I went back and he told me all the hateful things she wrote him and my son told me that she blasted me on Facebook. Anyway, when I was there I made plains to come back and drive him to NY (he lives near Jacksonville Fl, I’m in Ca.) The day I fly back to him she reaches out to us and says I’m doing well and that we should put our differences aside for dad. I was happy because time was fading when I took him. Next thing I know after the DR apt in NY, he gets mad at me saying I am bossing him around he even called the police. They said he had to let me drive him home (I had several calls from the police in his town prior to me going there that he should not drive). I drive him back and she said, “You did the best you could.” The next thing I know she’s blasting me again. Fast forward to the night he comes home from the hospital and hospice sets up his bed, my brother in-law calls and my sister is in the background yelling obscenities. He said the Dr gave him 3 to 6 months. I said ok how is he? Brother says, “He’s ok but doesn’t have long. You and your sister get the house and she wants to make a deal for your half.” I got offended. My children have similar suspicions. What do I do and where do I start? She also was trying to dispute his will and it hasn’t been probated or distributed. They were giving things away cause they wanted to leave quickly (they live in Ca too.) What do I do?
Umm.. What's the *just the facts* version?
A man was discharged from hospital with hospice care then died is what I can gather.
Do you have the money to cover the legal expenses in the event you pursue this but then LOSE, this is what you need to ponder very carefully.
Who is the Executor? Nothing probably should be given away until Probate is completed. The house, you can let her buy you out butIit may cause problems tax wise. With me the house was left to my brother. But by the time Mom passed, he didn't want it. So, I had to go to a lawyer to have the house put back into the estate and then the proceeds were split 3 ways. Since Dad said the house will be sold and proceeds split, something may have to be done if she wants to keep it and pay u. And, I would make sure you got fair market value for your half. She seems to run hot and cold so I would do her no favors.
You Dads cause of Death will be why he was put on Hospice. There are no autopsies done when someone is on Hospice. A death certificate will be provided by the Funeral Home. Probate can't be started for a certain number of days after death. Can't be closed for a certain number of months either. Your sister needs to realize this. Not going to happen over night. Need to make sure no bills are outstanding. Find out what assets he had. There has to be an accounting that you and her sign off on before the assets can be split.