I do most of housework, run my own business from home. I cook and help my dad with house repairs.
I have worked with my mom to collect most important papers and have them filed. I have created 3 ring binders of medical information (injuries, doctor visits,hospital info) for both parents.
My parents pay bills and own our home. They are still independent.
When they are hurt or injured they depend on me to handle things to get them back on their feet.
My dad is not good at handling medical problems. He is starting to show signs of Alzheimer's. He looses something and gets mad (I have to search for item) He wants his things left alone (I respect that).
My mom argues about following doctor's orders. And wants to argue with me about how I am doing something. She tries to hold onto unnecessary things (I have been selling them/ she received money and uses it to pay bills)
I have am older brother. (Well that's an other story)
it takes 2 people to argue. When she starts an argument, don’t answer back or even just leave the room.
If your parents are ok on their own and do not need constant care or supervision, move out, get your own place and hire a few caregivers to check in on and help them.