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I don't drive, but my daughter lives nearby and will be taking me to go visit mom. How many times a week should I go and for how long? How do I leave when she is pleading with me to stay?
How often did you visit her before the nursing home and throughout your life? Through the years I saw my mom pretty much every week and when she became frail I became her live in caregiver, so of course I wanted to be with her often and visited daily, usually staying to help over the lunch or dinner hour. If your relationship was different then I don't think you should feel obligated to spend that amount of time together - once or twice a week is still more than most people commit to.
It depends on a lot of things. Like CWillie, I used to visit my mom a lot but I am an only child and she had no other visitors. I didn’t stay long, though; 1/2 to 1 hour at most. If she was in a cranky mood, less than that. If your daughter is rearranging her schedule to drive you, you might want to plan to go on a day when you can have lunch with her, or like I did, on a day when there was an activity such as bingo or a program because at least for me, sitting in her room with not much to talk about was pretty boring. Also, warn your daughter that in the case Grandma is in a bad mood, the visit will be short, and take your daughter to lunch for her trouble.
There are lots of issues. How long has your mother been in the NH? They often advise ‘no visits’ for two or three weeks, so that a new resident will look around themselves, rather than just wait for the next visit. Does your mother have any other visitors, or are you the only one? Is she coming out of her room, making contacts with other residents or the staff? Do the staff say that she is settling in? It’s quite common for there to be ‘misery’ to family, that starts when they arrive and ends when they leave.
How busy is your daughter? Would she have to stay all the time to take you home? Is a taxi (even one way) affordable? Your choice shouldn’t create a frequent burden for a busy daughter with a job and family.
How do your visits go? Do you enjoy them? Does she? Many people on this site have difficult relationships, and when things get toxic they have to leave early and cut back visits. And are you finding other things to enjoy yourself, now that you can have more time and opportunities. For the sake of both you and your daughter, make sure that have your own interests for your future life.
You leave by saying at the start ‘I have only x time’ or ‘I have to leave at x o’clock’, and doing it. Just don’t let it seem like ‘I’m getting bored’ - you need a plan with a reason, so it’s not a ‘desertion’.
Julie, hon, there is no way we can answer this for oyu. It is a matter of how much time you have, whether your visits seem to HELP Mom or to make her more upset, and etc. If the visit you are on is upsetting to your Mom then you will want to cut it short. If it helps, that is great. So many variable you just have to walk through second by second. Wishing you good well.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
How busy is your daughter? Would she have to stay all the time to take you home? Is a taxi (even one way) affordable? Your choice shouldn’t create a frequent burden for a busy daughter with a job and family.
How do your visits go? Do you enjoy them? Does she? Many people on this site have difficult relationships, and when things get toxic they have to leave early and cut back visits. And are you finding other things to enjoy yourself, now that you can have more time and opportunities. For the sake of both you and your daughter, make sure that have your own interests for your future life.
You leave by saying at the start ‘I have only x time’ or ‘I have to leave at x o’clock’, and doing it. Just don’t let it seem like ‘I’m getting bored’ - you need a plan with a reason, so it’s not a ‘desertion’.