My mother lives in S. FL. I came down after leaving NYC, but wasn't planning on staying. Due to a number of falls over the last 8 years I was advised by the social worker at the last rehab two years ago to put her on hospice in our home to keep her safe. She is 97 and has really declined. Seems like the end is near. On top of the dementia, constant shaking (can no longer use walker) and sleeping most of the time. I am exhausted mentally and physically from caregiving, doing this on my own with no family or support. I've asked hospice for advice, researched ALFs, hired an aid who was disrespectful (currently terminated). Don't know what to do anymore. Thanks for reading.
Like has been suggested, it may be fruitful to call 911 . Once there in the hospital she can be transitioned directly into a SNF or other LTC. I know it feels like an overwhelming amount of stressful work right now but once you have a sustainable solution in place, things will finally improve.
FYI my Aunts lived in south FL for decades and were very clean people. It is difficult to keep the roaches and palmetto bugs out of the house... some are bound to get in.
Now YOU have to take the bull by the horns and make the decision yourself to place mother before you need hospitalization. Forget about reviews online. I had my mother go to a 5 star Medicare rated rehab SNF which turned out to be a hellhole I wouldn't put a dog in. I had to get her out of there in short order. Go check out a few places yourself and pick one. Florida has a problem with bugs. Period. Realize that and look past it. Make up your mind and release yourself from this self imposed burden.
Good luck and Godspeed.
I am no expert at ALL
imho call an ambulance and take it from there
I am so with Lea when it comes to Social Workers. I have only had one who really helped me. They don't think out of the box. Had one suggest a ramp out of Moms room. Told her couldn't be done because her room is half underground so the stairs go up out of her room. She insisted it could be done. Even drew her a picture.
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