I have tried calling an aging agency they told me they can’t force my grandmother out of her house and they can only offer meals on wheels. My grandmothers dog is in very poor health and she refuses to take it to the vet. The dog gasps for air and is limping and whimpering. I tried calling social services they just offered their insurance for my grandma and said to try calling visiting angels. But the problem is my grandma is very stubborn and won’t listen. She has been having dizzy spells frequently and no one in my family seems to care that her health is declining. So I’m trying my absolute best to get her into a retirement home. Can someone please help me on what I can do next?
You may simply need to wait for grandma to fall and become badly enough injured for 911 to be called.
You cannot care more about her than she cares about herself. (((Hugs))))).
Is the dog elderly? Perhaps, if so, this is self limiting and the animal will pass; and perhaps he is better in her care where he knows where he is, or mercifully put to sleep.
Visiting angels is of course merely an agency that hires folks, and is costly at 30.00 an hour or so and there is little they can do. If your Social Services agency is not going to help you with either grandmother or dog there is honestly little you can do. You cannot force anyone into retirement home until and unless you are their guardian. If Grandmother fails badly that is time to get her put in hospital ER with EMD ambulance call. Refuse to take her home and tell them that discharge home constitutes "unsafe discharge" and you will hold them responsible for whatever happens to her. Do not participate in discharge. While she is gone, were it me, I would take the poor animal to a vet and have it taken into care or put mercifully to sleep. But that's me.
In the absence of PoA, your parents will have to pursue guardianship through the courts, then they could legally help her. But this is time-consuming and expensive. In the absence of this, the county will eventually get guardianship and then your family will no longer be able to make any medical, financial or legal decisions for her. All her assets (house, car, savings, SS check) will be appropriated by the legal guardian and used to pay for her care. When she passes the guardian will provide an itemized accounting of her expenses and how her assets were used to pay for it all. IF there's anything left over, then (if she has a Will), it will be dispersed accordingly. If there was no will I THINK it goes to probate. Please let your parents know this info, as they may not, and then they can decide if pursuing guardianship is something they should consider doing in her best interests.
Regarding her dog: there are mobile dog grooming services so you could research that and the cost. You can talk to your grandma and tell her a service will come to her and let her know the cost, BUT often they won't provide service unless you can prove the dog has had its shots up to date. Getting shots at vet can cost a fair amount of money. I think Banfield Vets (at Petco) might be the most reasonable, but then you'd have to convince gramma to go with you and again, she has to be wiling and able to pay for it.
What AlvaDeer posted about the "unsafe" discharge is solid advice and what most likely will happen, unfortunately. I wish you all the best, and you are a sweetie pie for your loving concern for your grandmother! May you have peace in your heart as you and your family work to help her.