I have come to the end of my rope and my mother refuses my help (I am living with her). She is not in bad enough health to go to a home but is short about $1000 a month for assisted living. I am so stuck. She has been throwing fits for days and I'm afraid if I go to work she will surely go down hill.
Chicago is a very expensive area to live. There's an assisted living facility 8 miles from me that starts at about $1,500 a month for 3 meals. Maybe you need to start making calls. The average Social Security check is $1200. If she has savings, she can make up the difference.
Also google your state's Medicaid program to see if there are any Medicaid diversion programs that will pay for AL. Now finding an AL who will take her will be the harder part in all this as most will have just a couple of beds that are diversion and they get filled from a waiting list based on current private pay residents.
Thanks everyone,
Carol
also, you didn't mention your DAD but if he was in the service your Mom might be entitled to what's called Aid and Attendnance from the Veteran's administration. That's what saved me. Good luck and try to check all resources. The Alzheimer's Association is a very good resource. Also, I would suggest a support group with other caregivers. They will have lots of information because some will have gone through the same issues.