Hi,
was waiting so long for a break from my mum and today she went into respite it was very tough I feel like crap and am very down?? you see ive never been to a NH before just don't ask me what I expected I don't know but my mum was the youngest one there they all had white hair my mums is dark!! Oh I just didn't think they would be so old and motionless??
I cried leaving her, hugged her told her I loved her saddest day of my life maybe the reality is kicking in and its only now I realize shes old and ill and this may be where it ends.
Just very down and sad really thought id just leave her there and run but no its a different story when its real.
Home is wonderful staff etc... just thought the people would be mums age and mobile my mums 74 they all seemed about 90s Oh I know shell be fine and very well looked after.
I don't know cried all the way home! Please tell me some of you have experienced this?
try and relax your Mum will be fine and the respite will pass very quickly.
Dreaming of respite.
Your Mom will adjust. You need this break. She will meet friends and have activities designed for them. Be at peace. But do continue to advocate for her no matter where she resides.
Bless you with grace and peace. And MUCH joy.
Like others have said, try to find some things to do that you enjoy. Call friends to go out or go to a movie or for a walk...whatever you enjoy doing. And eat a piece of pie for JessieBelle, LOL. I think when you feel like you're carrying the world on your shoulders, when that burden is suddenly lifted, you have to reset your bearings. Now you're only holding up yourself, not the whole world. You've got other folks taking over the responsibility for your mom and that's a big change. I'm sure your mom would want you to enjoy this time to rest and recharge.
Sorry to rant but I will be so much happier when shes gone back as the stress she causes is just pathetic. Thankfully my brother is NOW starting to see her at her little games and is on her back to help out as I will not be there.
what really annoys me the most is she tells my mum everything even if it upsets her imagine my poor mum knowing that her children are fighting over who minds her?? can you imagine how she must feel? this is why I cant be around my sis she needs to grow up and very fast! you would think at 45 yrs old shed have grown up a bit by now?
Anyway ill try and switch off and just watch tv and hope she gets to see just how bad my mums become and how shes now 24/7 care!! Watch this space and thankgod for this forum before I discovered this I thought I was going to crack up as no one would listen to me not even her doctor. I have a very strong feeling now that things are coming to a head and that mums dementia will now start becoming more evident? my mums a great actress and puts on an act with my sis like nothings wrong with her? even though they are ill they can still manipulate to make me out to be the one whose not right? so stressful and so frustrating.
Hugs to all and wouldn't it be great to beam yourself off to a nice paradise beach and return when its all over!!!!!!!!!
Let go and let mom have some one on one with her other children. It will give you all new perspective.
Hoping each day of your break gets better and better!!! Enjoy and we're rooting for you!