Mom now wears Depends but now she is starting to wear them even after she has wet them. She smells like pee quite often and I found a pair in her pants just soaked like she had worn them for several days and peed in them. She uses the toilet during the day quite a bit and does get up at night sometimes to go. I need to talk to her about changing them as soon as they are wet.. Anyone have a way to discuss this with a very proud woman?
My mum is doing this quite often she wears them with no pants with her PJS and from the back she looks like the backside of a "HIPPO"
What I do is get a clean pair of pants and depend as you call them and hand it to her and say mum theres a smell of pee maybe you should change?
Sometimes she will other times she gets very angry and leave me alone.
I will ask the district nurse to have a word with her but this is very tough like a toddler running away when you need to change his nappy?
Its also hard for them they may not realise that you notice and when you do they get angry.
This is something you will have to get hard with and insist she change OR as I do threaten with nurse coming to change her OR a home!
Sometimes we have to use blackmail to get them to do what we want but this can cause infections especially UTIs so you should have a serious chat with a nurse or doc.
Every time I call nurse she says she needs to go into a home as it will get worse this is not much help?
I love her doctor! He is the one who came up with her list. Body hygiene, medication, physical activity he dicsusses with her at every visit. He talks directly to her and tells her what can happen if she doesn't do "x". Sometimes she gets it and
MIL already had a diagnosis of dementia when we went to this one, but I knew he was it when he was interviewing her. Family members kept interrupting to correct her answers and he asked her to excuse him and turned to all of us and said you'll have your turn but she is the patient I will hear from her 1st.
Since then he has worked with us on everything - explaining medical jargon, why he went with certain treatments, even helped us reconfigure the heights of her bed and chair, placement of rugs to decrease fall risk. I love him more than I should ;-)