My mother was diagnosed with cancer on April of this year. Before that, she already had some short memory problems, but I notice this is getting worse every month. I have heard this is a side effect, but I'm getting really worried about it. She is no longer the same person she used to be before the chemotherapy. Now she looks very lost and absent.
The meds giving to you have so many different side effects that is is so frustrating. There were times I wanted to trash the meds and let nature take its course. I even developed panic attacks which was a side effect, and it never went away... [sigh].
And your Mother will need to find a "new normal" for her life as it won't be the same as before cancer. Once the cancer is in remission, one will continue to keep looking over their shoulder to see if the cancer is trying to catch up with them.
Be very patient with your Mom. Don't sugar coat anything when talking to her. I found it was more helpful when a friend of mine said "boy, that sucks" when she found out I had cancer. So much better than someone saying you will be ok because how would they know.
Get Mom up and outside walking, if she is up to it. Go along with her. Exercise makes one feel better. If Mom gets winded walking, then take very short walks, and let her doctor know about how tired she is. I had to take Vit B12 shots for awhile and that helped boost my energy level. Now I am on the pill form of B12.
Anesthesia gets to me, I feel foggy for months afterwards. The brain is still not that well understood. Be gentle and kind during this. It's not pleasant to be the one with the brain fog....so be sweet.
And if your Mom has some form of dementia going through Chemo will not help nor will various stints in the hospital. And anesthesia wreaks havoc on the Dementia Brain.
If your Mom does have Dementia it might be a good idea to have "the Discussion" as to what course of action do you really want to take with any further diagnosis.