He is under hospice care but has recently become very unpredictable. We are heart sick over this. We need to remove him from the home and put him in a nursing home. We are worried no place will take him in his agitated state. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Your mom should not visit him alone for a while but with another family member until he settles - be aware that he will blame her for everything he can so be prepared to deflect him with answers on : she's stealing his money/things , she''s having an affair with XX, it's her fault he is in home, it's her fault that he hits her, he wants a divorce, it's her fault his shoe lace undid etc by having some pre-arranged answers like it's the dr's orders, it's only until ZZZZ happens [even if you know it's not], mom was becoming ill so maybe when she has her strength back YYY will happen etc
I've seen it all first hand so get help for dad [& therefore mom] by removing him from the house/app't they live in & be aware that other issues will come up so think out worse case scenerio then deal with them easier when they come up because you are prepared
In any case, you might check with the nursing home(s) available - perhaps one or more will have a memory unit; if not, they should be able to recommend a good next step.
The Doctor and the Nurse can get anxiety under control with medication. Once that has been taken care of either at home or he may be taken to an In Patient Facility until the medications have worked then you can decide if he has to be removed from the home or he can stay.
From your last comment it does sound like his time is short.
Please do not let these last few days of agitation be the thing you remember. Keep in mind what he was doing was not him but this terrible disease.
I do hope Hospice has helped you and your family. And I hope your Dad is finally able to rest easy. Keep telling him that you, and your Mom will be alright and let him know it is alright to go...