A fter 5 years of me doing 24 hour care went to his VA Doctor and ask for help big mistake. So it took 6 months but got a company through them and within 4 months my husband has kicked me out took away my car and gave it to is hired caregiver has given her money every month and paid her rent this month my husband is a Veteran and we live on a fixed income this woman is totally doing the sweetheart scam and I can't do a thing about it I've reported it to her company the VA and because I'm just his wife I have no say who cares for him what.can I do please help
Many people who develop MS also develop cognitive impairment or dementia. Has he had an evaluation by a psychiatrist? Try to get a reputable caregiver company to have a Psych nurse or social worker come in and do an evaluation.
Are you his Health Care Proxy or POA? IF so, that gives you more clout.
Do not move out of the house. It's YOUR house. Invite a friend or relative to stay there with you for a while. Complain to the caretaker company. Hire a new caretaker. That would definitely put a damper on the situation. (I know you're tired, but if you don't get help and fight for what's yours, you could end up homeless.
You need to get her out of the house! She definitely won't stay if you and someone else are there. She does not want you there. She is trying to establish residency and convince your husband to marry her and get it all.
It does looks to me that you are victim of yourself, as you said. How long have you lived in this house with your husband? You didn't make it clear, but sounds like it's your place as well. It's not up to him. No matter how nice the woman is, she must care about you as well because you are his wife. You can complain about this to the care agency, and they could help you. As far as giving her the car to use is fine, but not to keep. If you say it is yours, you do not have to sign it over. However if it is legally his, you don't have anything to say about it.
It does looks to me that you are victim of yourself, as you said. How long have you lived in this house with your husband? You didn't make it clear, but sounds like it's your place as well. It's not up to him. No matter how nice the woman is, she must care about you as well because you are his wife. You can complain about this to the care agency, and they could help you. As far as giving her the car to use is fine, but not to keep. If you say it is yours, you do not have to sign it over. However if it is legally his, you don't have anything to say about it.
No one is a perfect spouse or caregiver, but unless you were criminally abusive of him, please do not let any guilt you have, false or real, stop you from claiming what is rightfully yours.
If they are in Georgia, he can. Georgia is not a community property state and is a "no fault" divorce state.
The outlet that I see is to have him declared incompetent. Then you can get guardianship and kick out the caregiver. His doctor must be willing to declare him incompetent.