Hi, I am POA and my loved one is starving in a nursing home. They said he is mentally competent to refuse food. He is not in his right mind because I know him. I have tried to take him to the doctor and he says no to everything. My heart is breaking since they said not until he cannot speak can they take him to the hospital. And it is now lock down so we cannot get a doctor in to evaluate him. The nursing home said since he is competent we need guardianship. Can a judge grant us guardianship because he is harmful to his own self and cannot take care of himself? Eat, bathe, loose bowels. He is dying and he is a young man. Nothing is wrong with him except he went in for diverticulosis. What can I do?
You said you tried to take him to the doctor but he said no. Then how can the nursing home staff make him go when he says no?
At the moment, your best bet is to talk to him and find out why he's refusing to eat. Perhaps you can convince him to change his mind once you know the reasons.
Just a small amount. Something too big may look too disgusting, or just too much.
And of course, the lockdown doesn't help him ... Go in with a dive suit, mask, snorkel, your own air tank, forget the fins, they just look and feel too funny on land. gloves.. maybe, then? you can go in and see him? doubt it.