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Why in the world should your mother continue to be subjected to bras?
They are gruesomely uncomfortable for our entire lives. Now all we are and have is gone and we STILL need to be harnessed into them?
I am 82. I am sorry. I'm with Mom. I am breastless on the right and I have had a lumpectomy that too quite a "bite" on the right. At home I NEVER wear bras now, and I refuse falsies even when out. Someone has something to say? I will just tell them "Sharkbite" with a shrug and get on with my day. I don't care how big-busted we are, at some age no one looks at us anymore ANYWAY.
My suggestion is to give your mother a break! Alzheimer's has already ruined her life, why ruin what's left of it by strapping her into a bra for no good reason??????? Who's being bothered by her "large breasts" unharnessed???
When my mother was late stage I gave up on bras and just put mom in an undershirt and it was fine (I had asked her opinion and she was satisfied doing without).
I put loose fitting tops on my Mom. She is immobile and has dementia. If support is needed I would try a tank top under a loose top. Too many other issues to deal with so we ditched the bras long ago.
DH aunt took her bra off when she retired in her 50s. She is a petite large breasted woman all about comfort. She wore men’s undershirts under cotton button down 3/4 sleeve blouses or pjs. Still does. Always with the undershirts. I tried camisoles, tank tops but the men’s undershirts were best and in a larger size than her blouses. Aunt wouldn’t wear any type of pullover shirt/sweater but didn’t mind the pull over undershirts possibly due to the deep neckline.
If I don’t wear a bra I suffer from back pain so I can understand going braless might not be an option for everyone.
My mom always wanted a bra. Like your mom, at a certain point it was just too difficult. Because her finger tips were numb, she couldn’t manage buttons so preferred a pull over thicker cotton knit fabric. Some of her dressier outfits would include an open blouse/jacket. She liked jackets with pockets for her hanky/kleenex or readers. Lined blouses were an option she enjoyed. She wouldn’t wear the men’s undershirts. She had a fashion sense well into her 90s and knew she would look better in a bra but after a while was willing to let it go. Partially I think because she saw that we just couldn’t fit her properly.
Tank tops used as an undershirt - may not support the weight of her breastw but it should be more comfortable than a bra - even the wireless can get uncomfortable. Good luck with Mom and to You - it's a rough road for sure. Take care.
Mom was large and wore the tank top men’s t shirts loose . She used to tuck the t shirt fabric under her breasts to prevent rashes from sweat . It worked well . She was comfortable and happy with it . It was easier for her to dress . She could not even put a women’s tight tank on or sports bra because Mom’s arthritis in her shoulders was so bad she could only get loose tops on . She would wear a loose blouse and cardigan as well . It was fine .
You could try sports bras for her. They are very comfortable. I wear them myself.
Or get her some tank tops to wear under her shirts. Or spandex camisole undershirts which offer some support. There are options. What is she most comfortable with?
Years ago, I used to take care of an old lady who wore a corset every day. She would not go without it. She had been wearing one since she was a young woman and couldn't go without it. So I laced her up into her corset every morning.
I am a larger breasted woman, I would say do what your moms comfortable with.
But for me honestly, I'm more comfortable with a bra, so my opinion may be a bit different than others.
But honestly I need a bit of support. But some may not so I can't stress enough to let your mom wear what's comfortable for her.
I for around the house or if I'm sick, like loss fitting sports bras, actually for comfort, the cheaper the better.
I will also say they make tank like undershirts, I think they are more for the younger generation, that are smaller in size, but they have a small braish shelf like in them that gives some support.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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They are gruesomely uncomfortable for our entire lives. Now all we are and have is gone and we STILL need to be harnessed into them?
I am 82. I am sorry. I'm with Mom. I am breastless on the right and I have had a lumpectomy that too quite a "bite" on the right. At home I NEVER wear bras now, and I refuse falsies even when out. Someone has something to say? I will just tell them "Sharkbite" with a shrug and get on with my day. I don't care how big-busted we are, at some age no one looks at us anymore ANYWAY.
Love your style!
I think it depends on personal preference.
DH aunt took her bra off when she retired in her 50s. She is a petite large breasted woman all about comfort. She wore men’s undershirts under cotton button down 3/4 sleeve blouses or pjs. Still does. Always with the undershirts. I tried camisoles, tank tops but the men’s undershirts were best and in a larger size than her blouses. Aunt wouldn’t wear any type of pullover shirt/sweater but didn’t mind the pull over undershirts possibly due to the deep neckline.
If I don’t wear a bra I suffer from back pain so I can understand going braless might not be an option for everyone.
My mom always wanted a bra.
Like your mom, at a certain point it was just too difficult. Because her finger tips were numb, she couldn’t manage buttons so preferred a pull over thicker cotton knit fabric. Some of her dressier outfits would include an open blouse/jacket. She liked jackets with pockets for her hanky/kleenex or readers. Lined blouses were an option she enjoyed. She wouldn’t wear the men’s undershirts. She had a fashion sense well into her 90s and knew she would look better in a bra but after a while was willing to let it go. Partially I think because she saw that we just couldn’t fit her properly.
Or get her some tank tops to wear under her shirts. Or spandex camisole undershirts which offer some support.
There are options. What is she most comfortable with?
Years ago, I used to take care of an old lady who wore a corset every day. She would not go without it. She had been wearing one since she was a young woman and couldn't go without it. So I laced her up into her corset every morning.
But for me honestly, I'm more comfortable with a bra, so my opinion may be a bit different than others.
But honestly I need a bit of support. But some may not so I can't stress enough to let your mom wear what's comfortable for her.
I for around the house or if I'm sick, like loss fitting sports bras, actually for comfort, the cheaper the better.
I will also say they make tank like undershirts, I think they are more for the younger generation, that are smaller in size, but they have a small braish shelf like in them that gives some support.
Best of luck
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