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My mom lives in a nursing home. She has dementia and is 81 years old. I will visit about four times a week. Today was a good day. We chatted, I stayed with her while she got her hair done, and we listened to her Frank Sinatra music(her absolute favorite artist) Tomorrow I can go in her room and she can be crying and just laying in bed. I think it sounds cliché , but try to take every day as it comes. One day at a time . Each day brings new hope and new sorrow also. Try to enjoy the good ones, and take care of yourself during the bad ones. I really think this is normal. With age, medication, sometimes depression, weather, etc. Take care hugs and prayers
I don't know about everyone, but it did to us too. It stands to reason, though - limited reserves of energy, and if one day you're skipping about then the next you're going to need to recharge. As long as it doesn't unduly trouble your mother, I should try not to let it worry you either - enjoy the lively days, and get the ironing done on the quiet ones :)
Every time i went in to see my mom i never knew what state she would be in. I said "Mom's like a box of chocolates, I never know what I am going to get" and it varied by the hour!
My husband had good days and bad days with his dementia. Sometimes good hours and bad hours! It is the nature of the disease, I'm afraid.
My mother in the nursing home had pretty consistently good days -- UNLESS she had a cold or a sore somewhere or any physical discomfort.
I'm in my 70s. I have major depressive disorder. It is mostly managed very well, but I, too, have "bad days." I try just to be gentle with myself on those days and remind myself that this won't last forever. Tomorrow will be a better day!
As others have said, take advantage of the good days!
LOL. I noticed no one has liked CM's answer yet, even though it is a very good answer. They probably got to the ironing part and scrolled on down. Ironing is worse than digging ditches.
My mother died of Alzheimers 13 weeks ago. At home. We had at home hospice. By then I defined a good day as one where she woke up and gave me a smiles and kisses (as best she could) and let us get the hand brace on.
We used to have a mix of good and bad. I could usually predict them. Mom loved Sundays. We would go to church and out to eat. She was upbeat. Then Monday would be just the opposite. I guess Sundays wore her out.
Lately all days have not been good. She hasn't wanted to go to church for three weeks now. She asks that I go to the restaurant and get the food to bring home. She never wants to do things now. Little things can change very quickly when it comes to old age. She is 90 with back problems and dementia, so life is painful and perplexing to her.
Oh I loved the part about ironing! I still iron and find it relaxing. When I was a teen my dad allowed me to iron his Navy clothes. I was so proud to do it precisely how the Officers were required to be so starched and pressed. Thank you for helping me remember that. Also, my mom does similar things like not getting dressed some days. I do t question it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
and it varied by the hour!
My mother in the nursing home had pretty consistently good days -- UNLESS she had a cold or a sore somewhere or any physical discomfort.
I'm in my 70s. I have major depressive disorder. It is mostly managed very well, but I, too, have "bad days." I try just to be gentle with myself on those days and remind myself that this won't last forever. Tomorrow will be a better day!
As others have said, take advantage of the good days!
I miss her so much.
Lately all days have not been good. She hasn't wanted to go to church for three weeks now. She asks that I go to the restaurant and get the food to bring home. She never wants to do things now. Little things can change very quickly when it comes to old age. She is 90 with back problems and dementia, so life is painful and perplexing to her.
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