I am caring for my 84 yr old Father with some Dementia/Alzheimer's. He makes occasional comments towards me that have a sexual undertone. It makes me very uncomfortable. He lives with us and I am his 24/7 caregiver... Is this normal...what can I do when this happens?
Sadly, this is not at all unusual. Alzheimer's takes the person back in time and your father may think that you are your mother when she was young, or some other young woman. He likely thinks he's quite young. Please try to understand that he doesn't know that he is propositioning his daughter.
As uncomfortable as this is, know that you aren't alone. You can tell him that you're his daughter but he may not understand that, so it's likely all that you can do is distract him. It is possible that his doctor may have medication that can help, so I'd talk with the doctor about this if it's happening very often.
Good luck and please come back to the site for support. There are many people in this community who have had the same experience.
Carol
Does your dad wear pull-ups? Do you have to change him and clean him? Shower him? Is this when he's making the comments? Or does he just make them in passing? Without divulging the nature of the remarks maybe you could let us know how much care he's receiving so we can get a better picture which will help people share more detailed suggestions.
I'm sure you will get more responses from people who have had similar experiences. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this.