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but at the same time, do not beat yourself up if you are so tired all the positive affirmations in the universe won't help..... but as has been suggested, take time for yourself... when I can't deal with one more thing, I have neglected myself days ago. This is the most demanding and tiring job I have ever had... so be good to yourself... most all caregivers will tell you you HAVE to have time for you... hugs to you...
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I get out of the house every day ~ I work. I get out of the house every evening by walking the dogs in the fresh air. I spend time with my son - just he and I.

I remember what a good Dad my Father was. What a good Grandfather he was.

I picture what my life on this earth will be like when he is no longer on it.

All those things can usually help me change my perspective when I am burdened and weighed down with chores, depression, responsibility.
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LISA:

A positive attitude is an infectious, powerful thing that takes practice and allows you to enjoy what you're doing -- even when your heart isn't in it. When you're not all there, the caregivee feels it and might resist somehow. Which makes you feel even worse.

We all wear different masks every day. When caregiving, pick the happy one and stay in character. They say that when you act "as if" you become. ... So give it a shot. It might work.

Good luck my sister.
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I agree, mardan, pray, smile, and also I would like to add: have a strong, strong support group of family and friends and also take time for yourself. I am finding it is a tough road but without my friends, I would never make it.
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I meditate. If I can't have a smile on my face - I accept it but every opportunity that I have to laugh, have fun, experience it - I grab it with both hands. Most importantly is I respect the fluidity of life. When I'm in tough times - I remember that it wont alway feel that bad - hang on - it will pass.
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Make sure to give yourself breaks from the daily routine. Dine out, take a walk, treat yourself to some little luxury that don't do on a regular basis or anything that gets you away from your responsibilities even for an hour or so. Elder caregiving is a demanding and tiring responsibility. Mentally regrouping is necessary.
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Prayer and stubbornness.
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I have been taking Dayan (wild goose) Qigong classes offered at Kaiser hospital here in the San Francisco bay area. Kaiser members get a discount, but it is open to anyone.

Qigong is a moving meditation (chinese) that keep me in an excellent frame of mind and gets me out of the house for two hours once a week. My husband watches mom so I can go.

The practice is a type of Tai Chi (or maybe the other way around :) of 64 gentle movements that are done in sinc with the whole class. it is adaptive for folks with physical problems too, as some do it sitting. You do not need any experience or even be in good shape. Two in my class struggle with major weight issues and they are as graceful and lovely as anyone in my class.

Qigong been a life saver for me. I've tried regular mediation classes, but find I am so much in "go mode", that trying to sit still and relax was literally stressing me out more. Since I find needlework (also recommend) and walking relaxing, I decided to give a 'moving' meditation a try. Feels like I hit the lottery... I LOVE IT!

I can practice in as little as 10 minutes at home. When I am driving home from my weekly class, I can honestly say it is the best I ever feel and husband can attest that I always walk in the door with a smile on my face. Practicing with the group aka flock, is quiet, soothing, beautiful and bonding.

If you don't have Tai Chi or Qigong classes in your area, dvd can be bought online. Public television in my area has a Qigong program.

~5+ years caregiving and counting. first w/ middle school special needs "at risk" nephew (hardest of all) for two years. Then my father with advanced Parkinson's, degenerative spine/pain condition and stage IV colon cancer. Now caregiving my schizophrenic mom with vascular dementia and aphasia (loss of normal speech) due to two strokes.

Qigong has literally saved my attitude and possibly my life, as I am very much aware of the caregiver mortality rates...

Take care each and every one of you~ xo sam in california
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My 89yr old mother came to live with me 5yrs ago, at which time she was in a wheelchair and spoke of wanting God to call her home. She now walks almost everyday outside(only uses a cane for stability), reads, writes and LAUGHS...She thinks I am funny so I find things to say and/or do that tickle her fancy. We laugh a great deal and pray a lot:)
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always pray and have a smile in your face..
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