Mom is 97 and has been living with my husband and I for over 5 years. We have always made her feel welcome and enjoyed having her with us. Over the last couple of months she has declined rapidly. Mom has been on Hospice so I feel we have a great support system to help us through this final phase of her life. She insists on spending all day in her bedroom alone either lying or sitting on the edge of her bed, sleeping a lot of that time. When I encourage her to come out for meals or just to spend time in the sunroom with me she refuses. Yesterday I helped her into the transport chair and wheeled her out there to have something to eat. She did eat a little but then wanted to go to bed. She tells me she likes being back there because no one is there. She prefers I not even sit with her. I check on her often, but feel guilty leaving her all alone. If I go in to be with her, she doesn’t say anything, but gets agitated. Is it OK to leave her be now in this time of transitioning?
Wishing you peace and sending you prayers as you both accept this phase of your lives. All the best.
People deserve the right to die in the manner they choose, if at all possible. Don't push your desires on to her. She is moving from this world to the next and in a comfortable, loving situation. Let her have her peace.
Good Luck to you as you care for her in this difficult time.